Hey all. New to the board, but looking for some advice on this girl I've been on a few dates with. Here's the play by play (sorry it's long):

1) Got her number at a bar and then got dinner with her a week later. Date went awesome. Planted one on her and she texted me as soon as I got home telling me she had a great time.

2) Two weeks later: Date two. Also went awesome and she texted me after the date again to tell me how awesome it was.

3) Date three: She got really busy with her two jobs (working until the wee hours of the morning) and canceled twice in a row, but each time set up a new date. On the day of said date, she said she would be working late, but could take an hour and a half break to meet up at her place. We did and it went fine, but she was rushed the whole time.

4) Anyway, she kept getting busy but then three weeks later she invites me out with her friends and we end up going back to my place and yadda yadda yadda I drove her home in the morning. I then invited her to an overnight thing later in the month happening two hours away and she said she thought she could come. In retrospect, duh, way too early to take a girl to a hotel.

5) Almost three weeks go by again, she's busy and can't meet. I ask her if she's still coming with me to this trip. She avoids the subject in her first text back. Then I ask again and two days later she tells me she got called into work and was so sorry she can't make it. So, this was foolish, but in the past, I have generally responded to her texts right away, but she always takes a day or so to get back to mine. I probably shouldn't have been so available. Well, this time I was smarter, and when she canceled I didn't answer until several hours later. I was short and to the point said sorry she couldn't come and hoped work went ok. Well, this suddenly had her sending me texts right away and her offering to meet up in a few days.

6) Well on the day of her date that she rescheduled, she says she has to work late, but we can meet up when I get back the following week. I tell her to just let me know. I don't text her at all and suddenly get a Facebook comment from her on a photo that seemed cute enough five days later. I respond and joke back with her.

7) I then text her a few days later asking if she wants to come to a party with me. She has not responded and it's been almost a week and now it's been a month since we've seen each other.

My question to you is this: She has repeatedly pulled disappearing acts where I don't hear from her for a week and all of a sudden she texts. Also our dates have become now an average of three weeks in between or more. I'm thinking that I am making myself look weak here in some way. If she texts me back now, should I stop answering her completely? I'm thinking I need to walk away from this, but then again she's way hot. I'm leaning toward not answering at all and dropping her cold. Thoughts?

Very interesting case, I've been through something similar, only it was me who was unavailable due to business traveling, not the girl... Here's what I learned... whenever you go out on a date, you pump the attraction to a high level, from which it goes slowly down over the next few days, up to a week. If you meet again the next day or the day after tomorrow, you resume from a high attraction level and go higher up the ladder... This way you can close easily in 2-3 dates even with a "square" chick... By leaving two weeks between dates, you are resuming from an attraction level similar to the one before the previous date, not after the date... Does this make any sense?

About the invite to spend a night away, it gave her time to rationalize what was going to happen, and most likely was a bad move Had you suggested while on a night out "Let's drive to South Beach for the night, we'll watch the sunrise there" and gotten a hotel room, that would probably have worked a lot better...

About how to proceed, your chances are reduced by the gaps between dates... and her answering you with such delays shows that you may have given her too much attention and she feels she can treat you anyway and that you will still be interested in her... If you can plow for a few dates only a couple of days apart, you may crack her code... otherwise, just leave her be... That's my take, anyway... Let me know how this ends... Bye!