if you look at a man and think he is better than you he will be.

I am currently feeling this symptom. I know that I should focus only on me and not care about other people. Yet when it is the guy that your ex practically choose over you, you can't help but feel some sense inferiority.

and of course it does not help that she called me last night to "see how I was doing". I talked to her about 5 minutes and simply said " i cant do this, im glad you are well goodbye" and just hung up.

The fact that she called me has been dwelling in my head non stop.


whats the suggested 'outlook' or how do I deal with both issues? the only solution I see is to internalize a 'whatever' attitude and just not care.

Build up your inner confidence. Just accept that there will be guys that will be better at you at some things. It is up to you to find the good qualities in yourself and shine them.

I know the importance of inner confidence.. and somehow im honestly scared of it. I tend to be overly aggressive and put others down when im in my "zone". It is bad, the only time I am confident and sure is when I am putting others down both verbally and physically.

that isn't true confidence. I know all of my qualities and by far can outshine many, but there is a difference between knowing something, believing something, and being something. That is my main problem. I have been struggling to internalize who I am and truly creating that "me" bubble.

How do you work on internal confidence?

Start meeting people everyday. Start introducing yourself to at least 10 random strangers every day. Be positive, be upbeat, and ENGAGE in conversation.


If your ex calls, talk to her - tell her how fucking stellar life is and that you have to go - ask her if there was something she needed? If not, cut her off mid-sentence, and say "Yeah, that's awesome...uh huh bye" and hang the fuck up.


What does it matter? Do you think she really gives a fuck? If she does - she will tell you, and she'd probably stop fucking the dude whom you feel inferior to.

As for that - work on yourself. Find what it takes for YOU to feel like a successful man - and DO IT. It's that simple. Anything off that path is a distraction.

The more people you meet, the less you give a fuck, the less you give a fuck - the less you think about this whole deal.....

RR

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Great speech my man! Really inspired me!

Makes me think about this video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lsSC2vx7 ... re=related

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Do not make external things like girls define your happiness or you will live a harsh life. Keep doing what you love and keep improving as a man.