Coming to you guys for advice. I have a heartwrenching decision
to make and hopefully you could shed some light. I have to decide whether to stay with my girlfriend of six months who I love or to go to ocean city beach (3 hrs away) to stay at and get a average job for the summer without her. Shes seventeen and her parents wont let her come with me, Im nineteen Nd Ive been wanting to go to OC and live there for the summer ever since I basically lived there homelessly all last summer. Ive honestly never been closer to a girl, shes amazing and my best friend. just talking to her about leaving for the summer makes me cry, I know id probably end up cheating on her while im there and she doesnt want to be with me if i do. In one sense I could potentially marry her, but in another were probbly eventually going to break up with me going to college next year (40minutez from her, not too far) and with her leaving for college in new york in a year. Its daunting for me to exclude possibilities of hooking up with other girls for her, but i really feel like i love her. Should I stay in a town i dont like and live wit my parents and feel somewhat trapped and stay with her all summer, or should i go to the beach Nd have a job and be free and have fun? I dont want to leave her but I dont want to stay here? What do I do?


Please help shed some light...

Sorry...it's tough, but if she's going to college, you either move with her..but it sounds like it won't get to that point

I feel like you have many inconsistencies with your train of thought... You say that you "have never been closer to a girl," and that you "feel like" you love her... yet you say that you would probably end up cheating on her? You even talk about potential marriage, but you are willing to end it just because you are going 40 minutes away (which is an easy commute, in my opinion). My personal stance, and take it for what it is:
If you have doubts, then the relationship is not worth it. If you really have so many insecurities about the relationship, then it is pretty much already over. I would say take the beach option ASAP. You should not have to feel trapped in a relationship; it is not fair for you, and it is not fair for her. Be free. Let her be free. You will easily, EASILY find another girl that could be just as important to you, if not more so. It may seem hard, but just remember, the grass is always greener. It may seem like a harder life no matter what choice you make. If she was really worth it, then you would not even have needed this thread, you would have already made up your mind to stay with her.
Best of luck, man. Hope you make the right decision.

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