dude, i hear you! and there is a solution. it's called warming up.
do warm up sets. random people (middle aged women, men, doesn't matter) and get yourself into that state that allows you to be "in the moment".
I"ve actually seen a great video on youtube by andy yosha. it's called "state shifting". You should check it out!
basically he says,
-get a coffee or whatever at a shop and ask the cashier how their day has been, banter a little and leave
-ask a stranger for directions
-ask another stranger for directions but this time linger a bit longer and tease them... "are you sure this is the right way? my day will be ruined if not. Are you sure you're qualified to give out this information? where's your directions giving certificate?"...
-repeat another few times and voila.
Worked for me. Reaaaaally hard to get yourself to actually do it, but it works!
Cheers, Andy
Ps. Started doing that just last thursday and have a date now with the only HB i actually aproached

(asides from all the middle aged moms and 30 year old dudes i talked to). Success rate 100%
