Hey guys, im Dolphin. I joined the forum yesterday, I only started reading the game a few days ago and I'm still reading it.

I'm just lost as to where actually start, I'm looking at the approaches and openers section and they are good but I wouldn't know how to transition after them. I need to start from the very bottom and work up, i need to start from the very billy basics to start approaching and just build my confidence and into being comfortable in that posn.

All I can see happening is me using an opener and that being an immediate sticking point. I'm sorry if you get people asking this all the time, theres just so much information i guess im just looking for a base something to see where im at and what i need to build from.

Thanks

You're making the mistake everyone else is making. Start with inner game. Better to get your life together before you lose confidence by getting blown off. Here is a good idea as to how to become more of a people's person.

Go out practice talking to guys. Just say hi, look them in the eye. Do this for a week. Then move onto doing it with girls you aren't attracted to for two weeks, and then add in girls you are attracted to for another two weeks. This will make you more of a social person.

Don't become the guy that uses a canned line all time time. They are cool to start, but many times I have seen a guy say one and then have no idea what to say after that because he knows nothinbg about the topic, and just uses it to open a conversation.

Thanks to your fast response mate. Okay, yes I completely agree.

I'm in the forces so it's not so easy to just go out and speak to anyone. Obviously where I can I will but I'm talking to lads the majority of the time however I do understand they are lads I have become comfortable with so I'm not really challenging myself in a way that it would be if it were a stranger (to build confidence etc).

Also if I was to go out and I approach lads won't they think I'm gay? also this wouldnt that mean I would go out alone, because if I went out with mates they would be like what you chatting to men for?are you gay? etc etc?

Maybe in a club, not anywhere else. Just talk if they're near you in a place where they won't be moving anytime soon

Okay I'll try that thanks!

I personally think it's not as hard as it's made out to be. Social circle game is easier than "cold approach" pickup, but that isn't the point.

All you really need to do is walk up to a girl confidently, give her some eye contact and start a conversation. Say something like "Has anyone ever said you look like Katy Perry?" as just an arbitrary example. She may respond with yes or no, which is good, because she's investing. From there, ask if she can sing and tease her on it.

Start touching her early on, like a little brush on the arm or a handshake etc and slowly amp it up as you continue talking. Tell her to come with you to another location inside the venue, grab her had and lead her. This is more touch, more confidence showing and just shows you're a man. Just examples.

Make sexual innuendos, sexual jokes and just keep the conversation flirty, sexual and fun. Mistake her for saying sexual things, accuse her of hitting on you and just bust her balls. It's fun, shows you're not intimidated and shows that you're high value.

Just leave her better than you found her, have some fun and don't really make a big deal of things.

I remember back in my earlier years (primary and high school) that I was totally uninterested in dating, however that is probably the period where I had THE MOST amount of girls chasing me. They can left, right and centre, and I just blew them off because I was uninterested. If you show that you are at some place just to have fun and have a good time and are NOT there just simply to pick up, you'll feel less "threatening" and have a better chance of picking up. Though there is a time and place to be forward with your attraction to her.

Anyway, take it as you will. My two cents.

Good luck.