Hi,

I have had problems my entire life with crossing that fine line between just talking to a girl as friends to going physical. I have been lucky lately and have been with a couple girls.

I started up a FB Group for a band. This group has over 2,400 people in it, many of them women. I have gained a lot of popularity in that community and meet up with dozens of these girls at various concerts and events of the band. I have the popularity and respect. The problem is that I can never tell when to to try and push things farther. It's hard for me to tell if a woman is being just friendly or that exact thing I should do to try an escalate things rapidly. If a woman comes on to me I got it...no problem. From then on I am really good. This first stage is what gets me. Unfortunately, most of the time they don't come on to me but it seems like I have a chance...they just want me to make the first move probably or state how I feel. Often I am scared of losing them as a friend or making things awkward if they aren't for it. Like I said, with 2 women now I have gotten lucky and just because I created this FB Group. I didn't have to even really try with them.

I have the platform. I just need some advice on what things I can do to take it from simply talking and joking around with a woman to finding out if I can get physical with her. I will be going on a trip this next weekend where I will be amongst many dozens of women who know me. Any advice is appreciated.

Hardest PUA lesson for usually the good-looking people I know or the ones that have their own social circle fame going: girls will not come up to you even if they like you.

Now...they actually might in a social circle...but it's a more slow and drawn out game of bullshit and external nonsense.

I hate to say it, despite all the feminist equality bullshit, most women still view a MAN in a stereotypical fashion equivalent to medieval or prehistoric times. He must be the MAN who leads, who escalates, who makes a move and doesn't bother risking it because it shows he could give less of a shit.

What's funny is so many of these girls I would looove to spend time with and fuck. I never let them know, though. I don't want to come off like every single other guy who kisses their ass and worships them. I have the whole "could give less of a shit" thing going. I don't put all my eggs in any one basket. I obviously am not as good as I could be at just going for it. Just recently a girl (who I actually dig) said that when I see her next weekend and she comes up to hug me I probably won't even recognize her and tell her to go away. She is almost putting me on a pedestal and reality is I will know who she is right away and be looking for her. I just gotta strategize. One big issue is that I mingle and I just keep moving and moving from person to person and group to group and never really spend the individual one on one time with a girl to even get close to her.