so here is a convo me and this girl had earlier today through text:

Me: you popped into my head so hi..now please stay outta there

Her:Whattt!

Me:you can't just do that when i'm tryna study

Her: Yes i sure can!

Me: You would like it :} it's dirty as hell up there

Her: LMFAO

Me: Poor ass, it was a nice one

Her: haha was it

Me: i'd have to see it again to make a correct judgement on that

Her: i am so confused

Me: Youre too fun! what's a good movie to watch?

Her: The Big Lebowski

Me: Bring it over! and a big blanket too

Her: I only have it on netflix

Me: I'm sure you'll find a movie you like out of my collection then

Her: Indeed. are we doin this today?

Me: Lets do it when i get back from the lakefront tonight

Her: indeed i'm at the parlor anyways right now

Me: in that case you can bring some markers and i'll let you give me a mock tattoo see ya tonight

Her: Hahahahaha! Okay



so around 7pm i texted her

Me: 8:30?

it's almost 8pm now and still no response...what i'm wondering is should i text/call her again? or just let it go and let her hit me up whether it is tonight or tomorrow or never.

Wait a bit longer. Then if she doesn't say anything she doesn't deserve you. We guys give to much value to these girls. Time to teach them a lesson of what a real man is.

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"Experience is the teacher of all things"

i ended up saying "What's up" at about 9:30 and this is how the convo went.

Me:What's up

Her:Eating a sandwich! you?

Me: hungry as hell , gimmie that sandwich!!!

Her:Hell naaa!

Me: That's some bullshit, give it to me and ill smoke you out

Her:Forreal

Me: how about you just come over with the sandwich and we'll see where it goes

Her:What! Gross

Me: Why would you make the sandwich gross?

Her: Haha i know i'm kidding. i'll come soon.

Me: an icee sounds good too! you know you want one haha

Her: Hell yes

Her: your place?

Me: My place.

Her: Okay

and then what happened?

we'll, now it's about 2 hours later, and nothing...i'm not sure if i should call her, or just leave it be till she texts me back(whether is it tonight/early AM(1-4)/tomorrow/next week)

i'm leaning towards just letting it be

any advice from the people here?

Tell her this and in these EXACT words:

"Youre shit."

I'm serious. I know that's the most off the wall advice I can give someone...but trust me....just say that.

Dude she is not attracted to you at all. She was just flirting with you, like playing a game, thats all. If she really wanted to see you then, she would've at least texted you back. Just move on.

ima just let it go tonight, and if she doesn't hit me up i know she wasn't interested in anything, and if she does i'll just play it cool. Thanks for the info though, if anyone else has advice they'd like to share..shoot!
the thing i don't understand is, why say you're going to come if you don't plan on it even?

This is where most APUA messes up, they don't follow the M3 model. The M3 model says, ACS, Attraction, Comfort and Seduction. What you are doing with that girl is on S phase, Seduction. You really have to go through A and C phase first in order to go to S phase. You might take it lightly, but its reality, its the ONLY way how things could go. I don't know if you have passed with A and C phase, given kissing on C phase. But, you can't do much unless a girl is attracted to you. How do you know if she attracted? She gives you IOI. Now with the phone game, who is texting first? Is it you all the time? Then its a problem. Is she replying back to your text when you stop? No. Look she is not even coming. There are girls who like to play with guys, and you have to understand these things, to know things like these. Most often a girl would ignore your text, at other time, she will just play along, bc its fun for her, when although its painful for you. So, you will have to filter out the good ones from the bad ones. Remember IOI - Indicator of Interest. Most often we PUA, fall for AOI - Assumption of Interest. Its not about assuming if a girl is attracted or interested in you, its when she is giving all these signals explicitly, then you know then game is on. Then you can go to C phase and then to S phase. With this girl, I would say move on. She is a waste of your time, energy and your game. Follow the M3 model, read the Mystery Method first, and then apply those skills in-field.

Playing it cool is contrary to popular notion annoying. I don't play it cool. I would in fact tell her

"you're shit. I could have went out with my friends tonight instead of waiting on u. w/e "

I say hold her fucking responsible. 60YOC method. Time to stop letting women off the fucking hook.

Wise words

Yah, I would go with that too, but then taht would make him look like a loser. Instead why not tell her that, fine I am going out on a date with a girl I know. Have fun doing w/e u r doing.

That would be good. In fact the more I ponder this yans, the more I think he shouldn't say shit...but to play it off as cool is just bullshit. Lets be real, he isn't keeping her as a friend anymore...this is a GIVEN yes OP? She ditched your ass and sorry to say it, 100% she had no good reason other than "ewww i dont want to spend time with him"

So realistically say whatever the fuck you want, but playing it cool won't get you this girl...it's been decided. I personally would go opposite M3 method and just be like "I'm glad there are 6.7 BILLION other women on this planet"

LOL

based on the info that's been provided, i've decided i'm going to let it go, and if she texts me saying sorry, i'll just tell her "it's ok, i ended up going out with this girl, you sure missed out on a good night!" or if she just send me a message like "what up" like she has before i'll just tell her "no offense, but i'm not here to play games" or something along those lines..but i'm definitely not going to be the one that initiates conversation anytime soon(at least until she does a few times.)

thoughts?