There was this girl in one of my classes. We would always make eye contact while we were in class. She's not like super hot, but I guess about an 8. So I would make eye contact and she would look back like intently. I went to a party once and she was there with her boyfriend, but she talked to me alot. I noticed her bf and her were kinda mean to each other. They made like sarcastic comments and sometimes they were kinda ignoring the other. I didn't think about it too much, but I notice it.

So, I guess she broke up with her boyfriend and we have been chatting online a bit. I am shy. I saw her at a party and she's like asking me why are you being so shy. I don't know things felt kinda awkward and I was hesistant. I eventually danced with her, like bumping and grinding . Then like I saw another girl I knew so I said hello and turned to talk to her a bit thinking this other would stay there. No, she sees this other guy that I am sure she is attracted to and just goes and grinds on him. I find this kinda of embarassing. So I just leave and i am angry. However, I kinda of also wanted her more.

Well, she acts like she totally did not diss me and keeps contacting me online. And I am really perturb because this hurt my pride. So we go to dinner one night and we are like teasing back and forth a bit. Then somewhere in the mix she just slaps me, playfully. However, I find this incredibly disrespectful. When I drop her off I ask her can I come in...like I'm thinking I'm to atleast get some kind of action and she just says "no." I am in disbelief. ...

We keep talking online like everything is cool. Then we have like lunch at school and some other people sit next to me. And this guy starts asking me" why do you mumble?" I was completely surprised, but I guess he was trying to check me because he saw me with a girl. The conversation pursued like a child ripping the wings off of a horse fly. I tried to go back in fort with him, then i tried to tease his name. And he said "bitch you better know my name." I was completely left speechless by this and furious. I didn't know what to say so I just sat there embarassed. The girl left then I left. I yelled at the guy yesterday....too late.

But anyway, I went to the park with this girl and she just talked to me rudely and disdainfully like I was worthless, like my feelings did not matter. I was just in disbelief. I would never treat her like that. I really felt like shit after the date. I still liked her though or wanted her...it was something about her ignoring me, and dissing. I like wanted her to prove that I was better than that. So i sent her a poem online. My friends laughed at me for doing this. She responded to it and was nice for like a day. Then she started dating the guy she left me to grind on at the party and now the whole situation seems embarassing and that I should not have even started talking to her in the first place. I saw her a few days ago and she was mad about me not talking to her anymore, but shes treating me like shit...

This whole situation just makes look like such a novice

what do you guys think? After this ordeal I thought I needed some assistance

what do you guys think? After this ordeal I thought I needed some assistance

What you need is to not be such a nice guy. I read the part about the poem and just did a *headdesk* and literally let out a groan. Why you left that party I have no idea. You didnt even bother to see if she came back to you, which to me is a mistake. If she hits you thats not disrespectful at all, its actually a sign of interest. And then you ASK if you can come in? Dear god. I am going to stop there because I dont want to make it sound like I am belittling you. Honestly, it sounds to me like she gave you multiple chances and you just pissed them away by being a bit of a wiener. However, I understand you situation, I have been there before. Honestly, you need to learn how to recognize IOIs better, handle adversity, and just not be such a " nice guy" in general. Also, do yourself a favor, stop rating girls on this stupid looks scale that seems to be so popular. It's high school-ish and all it will do is put added pressure on you. Girls should be either a 0 or a 1. For attracted to or not attracted to.

My advice to you: Do the George Costanza. Do pretty much the opposite of everything you did here.

He lost her the moment she started grinding up on him.

Hate to say it, you were the convenient replacement in her ego to not be seen alone. Just a mere supplication.

Move on. I doubt she takes you seriously.

man...that's not really nice to say.

I just feel like its really not fair. I thought she should have been more considerate and more reassuring. And the dude that Amogd me was just a jackass. As a man I have to take responsibility for my life and my emotions, but I just expected more from others.

I asked her "why is she such a big tease?" and I she said "I hate when guys say that". man she knows what she is doing...I still wish I could take her from this guy though....

One girl is not worth this much heartache. Obviously it was one sided. Move on to a situation that isnt.

How old are you?

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You should text her and be like "thank god I have better options. Have a gr8 life."

Seriously...it's time you told this girl off and moved on my man. BILLIONS of women ON PLANET earth. 3:1 woman to fucking MAN ratio...you realize this YES?

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I'm serious man. I just expected a little more respect. Doesn't seem right...

Don't take anything a woman does as personal...I know it's hard. I know it's easier for me to say this...but god damn it's the truth.

Look most women ARE NOT shallow, but when it comes to matters of attraction and love, they are like most men are. Would you realistically date a very obese girl? Your first thought is an IMMEDIATE no. You may be polite about it, some girls are polite to some guys, and some are just like "pfft FUCK NAW"

It's nothing to apologize for. Please read Mystery Method Revelations.

Rule # 1 Is LOVE IS CRUEL..expect nothing and definitely no "respect" that is to be assumed. I'm sorry to tell you sober...it's fucked and she wasn't nice about it..but that's the GAME. Welcome.

THE SOONER YOU INTERNALIZE THIS - THE BETTER.

Hey player,
and welcome to the forum!!
If you're looking for advice here, expect the Cold Hard Sober Truth!! no sugar coated shit.
Seriously??
What you mean it isn't fair? What you mean she should have been more considerate and reassuring? She didn't have to be anything!! You were the one who turned her off by not being confident enough, and not grabbing the bull by the horns, so to speak. I think that there was some intial interest on her part but again, you were the one who failed to build enough attraction and capitalize. Stop blaming the girl.
Need I say more?

Man you can show the world of interest in a girl but if you dont take the appropiate actions it's pretty much all for not.

Now, that we've identified all your mistakes, we gotta start looking for ways to correct them. I suggest starting on your inner game/ confidence first, go out more and work on that social anxiety of yours and don't worry about that girl too much she was just a learning curve. Like one of the posters said there are lots girls out there. Get some pre-selection /options.

These are some good books i've recently read on building confidence
The Power of Your Subconscious Mind
by Joseph Murphy

Excuse Me, Your Life is Waiting
by Lynn Grabhorn

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
by Susan Jeffers

Goodluck Bro.

You're an AFC (average frustrated chump) and what you have is a weak form of one-itis. Start reading about the game and come back when you have questions.

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Look - some girls are just....wrong. They don't even know that they are being disrespectful, because they take it for granted that they should be able to do whatever the F they want because that's the way it's always been for them.

If you want to get in their pants, just roll with the punches and be strategic, not emotional.

A couple of weeks ago I ditched a pretty hot girl who was sitting in my car going back to my apartment for a little "after party". She was rude once, twice, then third strike and she got dumped at a gas station. So yeah, draw the line somewhere, but remember that if all you want is to get laid then you don't really need to care about too much about her opinion.

For example:
Last Saturday I was at a party. Two chicks came in, both pretty hot.
One of them was dating my PUA buddy, the other came right over to me and flirted like hell. Her friend told me she had wanted to set her up with me, and I complimentet her saying she was hot and all that.
At one point this girl was sitting on the table with her foot in my crotch grinding it while I was fondling the inside of her thigh with one hand while having the other under her shirt rubbing her back.
She said "you know you're under my clothes, right?" I said "yeah, do you mind?" and winked. She said "nooooo".

She then demanded to get my phone number and wanted me to go clubbing with her. So we did.

A few moments later she was sitting in some other guys lap. It turned out to be someone she already knew.
I didn't get upset or had a tantrum, instead I shot the breeze with the security guard (who works out at the same gym as me) and waited for the place to close. I then walked over to her, put my arm around her and told her to come with me to the after-party. This sounded like lots of fun to her, so she instantly ditched the guy she had dropped me for and came with me instead.

She then got all upset because she had lost her friend, tried to call her, and "lap guy" made a remarkable come-back by hauling a taxi and telling her she could get a ride home. She then ran to him instad. Ah, so close, so close!

The next day she texted me a lot, but now she has gone completely silent for some reason.
Do you know what I do? I shrug my shoulders, yell "next" and hook up a date with a tall, gorgeous brunette who's been contacting me on facebook a lot this last week. This even though she's on vacation in Turkey and should be occupied with other things.

The point is - don't get obsessed with any one girl. There are plenty more where they came from.

By the way - the girl I met at the party, who I almost got to take home....it turns out she once tried to purchase a car by paying with sex. So prostitution is something she might actually consider!

....and the 18 year old bisexual blonde that had a squirt orgasm all over my bed on Tuesday....let's just say that she didn't mind being handed around like a DVD-movie for everyone to enjoy.
I haven't shared her with any of my friends, but her ex sure did. And the stuff she agreed to do are just to perverted to be mentioned her.

My point is:
1) Stop obsessing
2) Shrug your f-ing shoulders when a girl gives you shit
3) Don't be such a nice guy
4) Do NOT (!!!!) put chicks on a pedestal. They are just like us, full of flaws and weaknesses. They are not "godesses" or any BS like that.
5) And don't forget: BE AWESOME!

I be trying to chill, bitches wanna fuck me
Every little city I go, fuck me
Shawty must’ve heard, got the word, I move that D
Had it by a bladder, she like “oh I gotta pee”
Ran into a Rothko in my restroom
Singer slash actress in my bedroom
God I have the ticket for a walk through
Everything that do is big
I talk big money, I talk big homes
I sell out arenas, I call that getting dome
Million dollar voice, came through phone
We heading to the top, if you coming, come on
I’m Flying out to Pisa, just to get some pizza
Fly down to Jamaica, just to roll some reefa
Sex on the beach, left love speechless
They say that money talk, tell these other niggas speak up
What’s up


As goes for life.
As goes for your particular situation: girls that grind you should equal you planning where you want your bj. Outside? In the lavatory? Don't wait but act. Maby you're not keen on bj's so you take her home and make her ride your dick like a spastic.