Alright this might perhaps be the stupidest question ever asked, but is it not a sure thing when a girl out -stares YOU!?

so you see I work at a catering hall and we always have alot of hot females that roll through (weddings, communions, etc). And three times, THREE TIMES i locked eyes with an HB7, 8, and 9 and was the first one to look away! I'm talking solid stares where we were totally locked eyes for 3 seconds! The thing, I was too nervous every time to say anything, much less being able to COME UP with something.

So if a girl out stares you, does it not mean total DTF? Or is it something about the environment of dressing up at a formal party event that gets girls horny? Someone please give me input

If a girl is staring at you she wants to fuck you. Plain and simple. Don't worry about anything else. Next time you catch a girl doing this go over and chat to her like a real man would, even if it doesn't work out the way you hoped it will be better than have not having taken any action at all.

i wouldnt say she wants to fuck you lol

But more along the lines she seems attracted to you so the next thing you would do is go and talk to her (game her) and see if shes interested

Soncheese x

You need to adopt the mindset that she wants to fuck you, assume the sale. Be confident. Rather than having the mindset of "I wonder if she thinks i'm attractive and should I go talk to her" , girls can read those thoughts and will blow you off the moment they detect it

That is a great way to put it. I really like "assume the sale". I've tried thinking like this in other situations and sometimes really visualize that state of mind. And it's funny because when you meditate on that thought intensely, you can almost tangibly feel it. I feel the hardest part is really adopting that mind set and BELIEVING in it 100% I need to work big time.

Try affirmations to yourself in the mirror everyday for a couple of months. You will be surprised how well it actually works!

Could you explain a little further and give examples?

tell yourself that you're the man...that you're fearless...that you can pick up any woman in the world (even though the best PUA can't pick up EVERY girl)...but positive affirmations like those will eventually, if repeated daily, will kinda trick your mind into believing it all....then before you know it...you'll have the confidence to pull it all off......you gotta have a positive outlook..cuz women can pick up on that shit.

Good shit guys. Thanks for the advice. I'll start on this immediately.

You ever heard the saying "fake it till you make it"?

Whatever you want to be...pretend to be..and eventually you will be. Goes along the same lines as these affirmations...it all starts with believing in yourself.

Mirror work does wonders. Also record some audio and play to it yourself through your headphones while you are out and about. It will start reframing your subconscious into believing it. - Definitely agree 100% with fake it until you make it

By the way, any suggestions for some lines guys? I feel that being a waiter puts me in a good spot with alot to say, but like I said, I have trouble starting. Any cool, witty openings you guys can think of in that environment?

lots of good info in this topic.. thanks guys.

one thing to make sure.. if you're not going to go say something, at least smile. otherwise it looks like a weird stare-down or creepiness. this is my biggest problem. unless i'm already smiling, i rarely if ever manage to smile when i lock eyes or make eye contact. i always think i'm SPAM my intentions if i smile, and what if she just randomly happened to catch my eye? its a habit I need to break.

edit: just a random thought to answer your last question. if its always formal, i'd imagine 99% of the time you can simply say 'well, you look nice'. they took a lot of time to get ready, so they'll appreciate the compliment. make it specific if you can. pretty easy opener imo. then again i suck at this shit