Met a very hot italian rock-chick type

First time I went out with her she said I could come back but would have to sleep on sofa because she has roommate. this is true. obviously fuck that, I'm not sleeping on someones sofa, I went home

Second time she invited me to stay over and had been sending me texts like "I want you in my bed" and things, but then didn't seem to like intimate kissing so much and seemed uncomfortable about me trying to get more intimate with her, so ended up sucking her breasts and other things but nothing more exciting. She was on her period (not just an excuse, she definitely was), but still, nothing more exciting than breast sucking happened. She seemed to try to wriggle out of any time that got too intimate.

Third time a few days ago I was kind of thinking it felt like it had gone a bit dead but she invited me over to her new flat (with no room-mates) saying "I want you in my bed" again - and its a week later so definitely no period so I was hoping - 'finally we'll get to have sex'. But she was being just as evasive as before and kept turning to lie on her front and things and generally avoid real intimacy. I just feel bad pursuing sex with her, I start feeling like I'm trying it on with a girl who doesn't want that. So no sexual contact and nothing to intimate yet again. I spent the day with her but I'm starting to feel quite pissed off and am considering just putting a halt to it. It feels like she wants something like a big brother, and maybe I'm unromantic but I just feel like it's just a waste of my time and that she's not very mature about relationships and sex, and I don't have the patience to go through weeks or courtship

She's really hot and gives signs she likes me and certainly texts stuff like that but I seem unable to push us into sex-zone and to be honest it's just telling me she isnt sexually confident and isn't comfortable with herself and I feel a bit like she's just wasting my time

how do you deal with these slow-burn relationships? I have once before had to court someone for weeks and weeks gradually escalating into sex over f-ing weeks - and she's now a great friend and we love each other a lot (as friends) but to be honest I wouldn't do it again.


It almost feels like being friend-zoned for sex. She's 21 so a bit young in attitude perhaps. I don't have the time or patience these days to gradually break down all the barriers and teach her how to open up and enjoy sex.

I haven't spoken to her about it because obviously sex is one of those things that you can't talk about having with someone before you've had it with them as it kills it. If I could esaclate things into having sex with her I would do, but its going to take months at this rate - I feel bad to break up with her basically because she won't give out, but on the other hand - this is 2013 and we live in the real world, and I've been there before.

Essentially how can I get in her or should I just cut my losses and 'be friends' ?

I think you should just apply the cat-string theory during escaltion.
You need to make her horny as hell!!!
In other words, make her crave for your cock!

I'm posting to get in on this thread, as I am going through something similar. Except I eventually broke through and had sex with the girl, but am having a hard time getting it again.

I wish I could tell you how I got it the first time, but I honestly have no idea what I did different. We were even sober that night as well. However, she had just gotten an IUD removed that caused her to bleed frequently, so we finally had sex a couple days after she got that removed. But now I'm back to the point where every time I try to make moves, she denies and says she has to go. The last time we hung out she had her period, and but spent the night anyways. This girl is still talking to her ex-boyfriend, which may be getting to her head. So it could be the same for you, an ex still in the picture?

Do you up the sexual tension while flirting/texting? I think how she responds to that is a good indicator of your chances at sleeping with her. Just last night I was texting this girl and told her she needed to meditate, she asked if I wanted to have a meditating date with her, I told her it would have to be naked so the clothes don't interrupt. She said she would have a hard time meditating while looking at my hot body. Things like that lead me to believe she wants sex. Do you get the same vibe from your girl?

Or maybe she just wants to be dominated in the bedroom. Most girls do, especially if they've read 50 Shades of Grey. Take the lead. Grab her hands and hold them over her head, start making out with her, slip some fingers down and get her going. If she resists, stop everything and do something else (check your phone, flip through the TV stations). Basically ignore her for a while, then try again.

If none of that helps, I'm not sure where to go from there.

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I think you guys are being too easy and available. By the time you're in bed with a girl she ought to be crazy horny. Don't let a girl turn you into her cuddle friend....that's what puppies and teddy bears are for.