hey guys, i've come across this website a month or so ago after i got out of a relationship that ended pretty badly..i've learned a lot by reading forums, but now i feel its time to make an account and seek advice on a particular situation.

to start things off, after the breakup, I decided to run a few experiments on some online dating websites to see what reactions and responses are triggered by what.. And in the process, I found my ex on a site.

The time came where I got what I wanted out of the experiments...so I deleted the account on one site, and forgot about the other

the thing is, being me...the asshole ex boyfriend...and my ex being a crazy jealous, resentful, and at times immature girl.....She's attempting to use the shit against me somehow.


I was hanging out with a mutual acquaintance who is friends with the ex on twitter.. And they asked me:
Them: Robbie, have you been talking to her lately? i wonder who she's talking about..
Me: what do you mean? Its been about a month since i've spoke to her
Them: Take a look at this..

And they showed me..

She posted something saying about how she saw one account was gone, but how she has screen shots of the other one..


I know she's talking about me, because I had contacted a girl on one site...who ended up being good friends with my ex's best friend..I had no clue....Anyway, I guess that word got around...The profile itself didnt have any pics, but I did send a pic to the one girl, so they know it was me...But yeah, that account was the first one I deleted..and is the one she was referring to in her post.

I could have gone without that person showing me, cuz I got enough on my mind and am struggling enough to get my life back together...The last thing I want to deal with is everyone I know making jokes and making fun of me and seeing me in whichever light my ex decides to paint in their minds.....One of the downsides of living in a small town..

My question is though....How to deal with something like that? I mean, it shouldn't be a big deal...Maybe the thought of it bothers me because I got enough stress as is it...And knowing that she is even going that route, trying to hurt me like that, trying to embarrass me or something, just pisses me off considering the uphill battle I'm already having trying to meet new people and make new friends...I pretty much have 0 friends now as it is..everyone seems to have distanced themselves from me after our breakup...but of course she is still accepted in the group...Any suggestions and advice? What are good ways to stay positive, and deal with people like this? It really has me stressing. I don't know what I'd do if she were to post that stuff on facebook..It would really humiliate me and I dont know how to handle that

There are billions of people on the planet, most of them do not know your ex. Just go about your business. Oh...and no dick pics, don't pull a Brett Favre.

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These hos ain't loyal

Damn...bad situation man. I know people are gonna say "don't care what people think blablabla" but this is like your entire friends group, especially if she posts it on facebook.

Why don't you talk to her and ask her why she's doing this? Like ask her what she's to gain? If she can't come up with an answer, that's half the battle over with!
I think the best way is just to talk to her. Don't come off as threatening in any way. This shit is like diffusing a bomb

Maybe make a new friends group? Or try to get closer to the one you have at the moment, so that they'll just laugh at you for a while and then forget about it because they love you so much

If, worse comes to worse, this stuff does get out, don't act all embarassed about it. A way to take your ex down completely is to deal with her how you would an AMOG. If she posts this, ask stuff like "woah are you stalking me?" and "ooh what were you doing on a dating site then?". Make sure you say this in a jokey way. Don't take the situation seriously.

I understand there are billions of people on the planet that don't know my ex....but the reality that everyone in my current world does..And I don't know how to deal with her going to such extremes, to tell/show everyone that stuff..Things are hard enough as it is, and that will just be the icing on the cake :\

I've been trying to put myself out there and make new friends, but everywhere I go, there she is..or there one of her good friends are, and they all like to talk shit and spread shit on my name..and it just makes it very difficult to keep a positive attitude, and have people give me a chance after hearing/seeing things about me which paint a negative image in their minds. Maybe Im overreacting, but i just find it very disrespectful, and hurtful

I don't know if she'd actually post it on facebook... But i wouldnt put it past her or her best friend to be sending that shit to certain people, and talking shit, doing stuff like that in the shadows.....But either way, i think its fucked up..because i don't, or would not do something like that to anyone