I used to be against negging until I realized how you can compliment someone, buy someone stuff, be nice to someone and they don't return the favor. More than not returning the favor they can disrespect you because there is nothing to stop them from doing that if they want...

When you neg somone you tease them, you make them feel uncomfortable and no one wants to feel uncomfortable...ever. So its more reliable.


"love is preserved by the link of obligation which, owing to the baseness of men, is broken at every opportunity for their advantage; but fear preserves you by a dread of punishment which never fails.”

― Niccolò Machiavelli, The Prince

What you're saying makes no sense

Are you new or something? Negging is not done to make a girl feel uncomfortable...

For once, I agree with the Agent....what you just said is absolute horse shit.

Negging doesn't work like that, nor does complimenting for that matter. Compliments aren't the same thing as going out buying girls shed loads of presents, paying for all their drinks and food etc. and expect that to get you into their pants. But what you say on negging does indeed make no sense whatsoever - you say nobody likes to feel uncomfortable ever, but then think that your form of negging, in which you make people feel uncomfortable by your own admission, is 'more reliable'. How does that work? You want reliable methods that will make people uncomfortable around you? Not sure that's going to get you much game!

I don't use negging a lot to be honest. If I say anything negative about the girl, I always make sure it is very, very jokey, usually with a cheesey smile - OR I will say something with a deadpan face and then break out into a cheesey smile to let her know I was kidding a little bit afterwards. The negging I go for is the kind where the girl giggles and pretend punches you afterwards, not the kind where she is actually uncomfortable around you, that would serve the exact opposite purpose of what you're trying to achieve. (Although I know that some people would say even this isn't proper negging. Proper negging would be to put a girl in her place so to speak if she's being a bit "bratty", but still has to be handled carefully. You're trying to put the power back into your hands, but you're not trying to alienate the girl so much by offending her that she storms off and you've lost your chance. Not something I bother with to be honest - if the girl is like that in the first place, I'd rather move on to someone else.)

Likewise, I just chuck compliments in fairly naturally. I sometimes use them as good openers - "hey, I really like you're x, y, z, it really suits your hair. Where did you get it from?" But more often than not I just chuck it into a random conversation - I use it almost to "congratulate" the girl on doing something well. So if she has dressed up real nice, why not congratulate her for that with a compliment about how nice she's dressed, she'll love that after putting a load of effort in.

but it takes self-confidence and self-control to tease, because you have to convey the impression that you do not care when you in fact do. I guess its kinda like a bluff in poker or a feignt in boxing, you have to really sale the pump fake.

However, an issue I still have is you don't know when your neg will work...

My words are so simple, you have to be a complete jackass or kidding if you don't understand. So many people can't think for themselves...

I don't do either.

I compliment when a girl qualifies herself to me. PUA gurus call this Acceptance. Accepting a girl when she tries to qualify herself to you is a good technique to lay your compliance bait/request/command.

For instance, awhile ago, HB8 in shorts displayed her body to me with some flirty poses. If I negged her, then I would have not accomplished my kino goal. So I complimented her (acceptance of her qualification) as I touched her just above her pussy area. I got no resistance from her and I got the compliance I wanted.

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You talk out of your ass which leads me to believe your breath must smell like doo doo.

You're clearly on a wind up, so I don't know why I'm wasting my time on you, but I can think for myself. And I think that something that is more "reliable" because it always makes people around you feel uncomfortable is not something I want to be doing!

There is good discomfort like when building sexual tension, but ya overall making a girl feel uncomfortable isn't a good thing. The poster is just a newb and is probably on a high from getting his first kiss or some incidental touching of a girl's boob.

What makes you think it's not possible to be nice to people, compliment them and generally be a good guy without letting people step all over you?

confidence+humble+sexual escalation = recipe for success with the vast majority of women

To neg, done right, a girl means making her crave your acceptance.

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