Hey y'all,

I have a bit of chemistry with one of my sister's friends who is an HB9. Now, she has a bf but they've only been together a month and I know she's cheated on him and is DTF with the right guy if the moment is right. I also know she is hopelessly obsessed with herself, celebrity and the perception that she's some sort of star or just better than everyone else. I can't tell you how much fun I have negging this girl and cutting her down to size LOL. That said, we're pretty flirty with one another and have fun when we go out. Mind you, we have never gone out on a one on one, haven't got physical, I have her number but don't text, etc. We're just flirty at parties. I haven't pushed the issue yet because my younger sister is always out with us and I'm not entirely sure she'd be comfortable with it.

So here's my question...

I work in entertainment and my job gives me access to a lot of major events. I've recently been invited to a red carpet event by a major magazine and I can bring a date. Would it be a major DHV to ask her to something like this or would this make me look like every other guy who falls all over themselves to do something for her? I already hooked her up with some product for her blog but that was just as much about me building our blogging contacts and doing my job as it was about hooking her up and I made that crystal clear. Still, I don't want to look desperate.

I'm pretty certain she'd say yes as she has expressed an interest in going to an event before and it's an opportunity for her to pretend she's a somebody. But at the same time, we haven't even hooked up yet and I don't want to look like every other guy who turns into a little bitch around her. So far I've avoided that trap by negging the shit out of her and not chasing her around but I'd like to take her out on a one on one to see if there is anything there and this seems like a good opportunity.

What do you guys think? Would I be displaying higher value by asking her to an event like this or would this be a mistake?

at what point is inviting a girl out desperate?

in what way does hiding intent and not moving things forward somehow make you seem different then most guys?

if anything being afraid to escalate so you don't do something wrong will make you look like more of a bitch, it is good to take risks, it is not needy to ask a girl out, it is needy to keep asking her out when she is not interested, it is needy to become obessive over a girl you have never even kissed, it is needy to feel like you have ownership over a girl, it is needy to do or say specific things planned out to get some sort of reaction out of the girl, if you are chasing her approval, there is a good chance you are low on options that compare to her, and you need her in a bad way

just do your thing and don't be needy, if it is coming from a place of, she has to be mine, I will own her, I need this to work, how can I make her like me?

then you are doomed to fail, you should be comming from a place of, this girl likes me, well I hope she isn't weird, she seems cool, I'll give her a shot, hope she isn't crazy

half the battle is getting over your ego and realizing if one girls is not interested you have 1000 more you can approach by the end of the month

Thanks for the advice.

I actually became interested in this girl while meeting other people in an attempt to get over a oneitis I had for someone else, so it's definitely not coming from a place of need. We have fun, sure, but defo not the end of the world if she comes back disinterested and I'm definitely not about to madly pursue her.

Thanks again.

Just fucking ask her bro. Its not needy at all. Tell her she better look good or else dont worry about coming.

Yeah I agree with the rest! Just ask her! Doesn't matter it doesn't look needy at. If it does, who cares you are alpha remember..you do and go about life as you please!