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Sounds like everything is going great, man! Congratulations!
Whatever your goal is, here, just be honest with her (or manipulate her, if that suits your fancy). Thing is, I like the honest option. Right from the get go, I'm open with her and make it safe for her to express things. I let her know that it's just sex or that I see something developing and want to feel it out. Be tactful, but be honest. If she's not into the casual sex thing, she'll move on, and that's fine. It wouldn't end well if you're on different pages anyhow. If you want a relationship with this girl, that's what you'd aim for and talk to her about. It's pretty simple, in my opinion. Some guys try to make women into what they want them to be. Truth is, it's easier to let the women go who aren't what you want and find some who are.
Ya know Azn, I get that, I really do. But lets be honest, if you let women be who that are, then they are gonna run over you every chance they get. I totally feel you though and your way is probably best, but I try to "Train" my girls.
I think of women and new relationships as little babies or puppies that need to be trained. If you let your puppy shit everywhere without punishment than your puppy will never learn to stop shitting where ever it pleases. Likewise if you train your puppy to do tricks but never reward them then eventually theyre gonne be like fuck it.
My point is. Dont reward bad behavior with this new girl, but do reward good behavior. You set the precedent in your relationship very early on. If she's in a bad mood, let her be in a bad mood and go hang out with your friends. But if she does something sweet for you, reward her with your attention. Obviously you pick your battles but keep the "Trained Puppy" thought in your mind and see how it goes for you. Just a thought, has been going well for me lately. Not sure about the long term effects of it but the short term (3-4 months) everything is going well, the girls are practically begging me to be their boyfriend and I'm in the drivers seat.
Watch out for oneitis though bro. You seem to really like her which is dope just try to keep your emotions in check for a bit and remember to be the guy she started liking before you got intimate. The same things that attract women are the same things that keep them attracted which is beautiful but often forgotten. Lots of men know how to get a girl, but few know how to keep them, when all along all they had to do was the things that attracted her in the first place.
Hopes that helps and good luck my man!
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