I was reading my psychology motivation book about the downfall of long-term goals and how they are prone to failure because of the lack of positive feedback. For example, if I am sucking at pick-up and at the same time going through life problems it is possible to learn helplessness due to the failure overload.


Or for those that strive to become doctors. My roommate's dad is a doctor and all the people that are applying to med school are in some way or form connected with a person in the medical field. Those that are not able to receive positive feedback(I asked the pre-med students every year) quit after the first 2 years.


So where do you get your positive feedback from? I can only get so much positive feedback from myself but don't you believe it is more meaningful to get them from an expert?

What you need are baselines to measure your progress. Reliance on the subjective measurements of others is not good. However, insights from others are very valuable. There's a great difference.

Basically, what you can observe and count; you can measure.

For instance, before I studied pick up, women are often reluctant to say I'm handsome. I can measure this because the only girls that say I'm handsome are those that I'm already having sex with.

I knew I've improved a lot when girls, random strangers even, say straight up that I'm handsome. That's from zero to many. Right now, I just don't know how to f-close these girls who have shown massive indicators of interest so I'm lacking in this area. That's a baseline that I can observe and measure.

Another example is sex. During my younger years (second year high school and early college), I disappoint girls when I came too fast so I had to make it up through oral sex. I'm basically good at the f-theory back then. The disappointments were something I can measure because these were clearly observable, verbalized even, and something that I could count.

When I got a job in college as a freelance writer, I blew most of my earnings on sauna girls (prostitutes that are government regulated with weekly health check ups) so I can apply my theoretical knowledge in practical terms.

I knew I was doing great when sauna girls refuse to accept my payment other than the room charge I earlier paid when I fuck them. I also interviewed them so I know how to pleasure them most through my penis and how I fared out compared to most men. A sauna girl even made me her boyfriend and refuse to take on any other customers for the entire night so we can fuck from 8 or 9 pm until 6 or 7 am the next day.

You can apply the principle of baselines to yourself. Observe, measure, observe and measure again. That's the greatest feedback that you can have.

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