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As someone mentioned earlier it is true the real issue is of confidence..Because ultimately it is your confidence that gets you success in any field, no matter how good you might be at doing something. So i guess my real question is how do you get to the state where you do strive to achieve having a good physique, money, fame etc and on the other hand they would not matter if you lost them? Your confidence stays intact. I'm a student/musician and i have worked really hard to achieve good gpas, my skill as a musician, physique and even status. One thing i've come to realize is the more i focus on achieving these things it takes a toll on my personality. Can anyone suggest why? Because previously during my highschool days(i'm in college now) when i wasn't this much result oriented i got laid a lot more and had more confidence. Shouldn't getting more results or being more result oriented add to the confidence?
Right...well that really is the irony. All of these things come at a price. If you are striving for these other areas, you will not necessarily end up like Mystery in a position where you do this for your work and are able to keep everything else in tact and being seen as living this amazing lifestyle.
Most people focus on grades, all this stuff and focus on the end-game of life: marriage, kids, house, mortgage, etc.
It is quite ironically funny that human society focuses on all these other things and expects one day someone will "Find them" based on all these things. But really, to have these things, you need to also be able to be social at the same time and work on that - which can negatively affect your GPA and what not or health in some way if you get emotionally attached.
The key is to be cold first and foremost in the pick up game. Cold to any results socially. Shows non-neediness. I truly believe that people working so much on their aspect of getting rich because they believe it will get them so many women and laid (aka being a doctor, engineer, what have you) are usually the most needy of them all. Now if you genuinely cannot give a fuck about the stereotypes of profession and what people believe about money as an "auto-fuck" then you will be fine and better off....you will truly BE confident.
But a lot of people are doing things for the wrong reasons. First and foremost, decide if you are doing what you want for yourself. I know too many people trying things for other reasons (aka the fear of loss if they get it and lose it or the ivy league bubble).
Once you do this, you will be fine. Like a friend of mine who wants to be an engineer cause he looks up to his dad. He goes to the gym to be healthy..he jet skis and really he keeps up with his friends. He is social too which affects him where he never has time to pull off a great GPA thing. So it is what it is...
Obviously the irony is...when you rely on something too much in your life to "Get you women" you are a bonafide loser and girls do not want that. Sure you can be socially savvy to sleep with them if you play it right and make it seem like those things don't matter to you...but long-term wise you are really fucked or will end up with someone just because they want to essentially use you for your fame/money (these women ARE out there and that is their end goal..not commitment).