Hello everyone,

My first post here, long time lurker. I have read MM and pretty comfortable doing approaches. I have been told by a few women that I am a good looking guy, I get along well with everyone, can be a bit cocky at times. I fly for a living. But I struggle with women, I get them interested, but I lose them really easily.

This has been happening quite a few times now. A few examples...

1) I go to my mates 21st. A girl I briefly met before sees me and comes onto me. We talk a little and I know she's interested. I leave the party without saying goodbye. Later, I try to initiate things with her on fb as I don't have her number. She acts cold n starts ignoring me. I move on.

2) I go out with a group of friends one night, a girl in the group n me start making out at the end of the night. I don't fvck her that night. Next week the group wants me to come out but I decline. Again when I try to initiate things with her, nada.

3) At work, we work at a base/place for a month and then move on to the next. So, every month we are at a new base meeting new people. My first place I work at, I really get along well with these two girls. One is married and the other has bf. I game the married one just for practice. I can see I have got a little interest out of her. I even try getting her jealous by giving the other girl more attention and the married chick some cold shoulder. The married chick gives me all her attention. At the same time, me and the chick with the bf start becoming good friends. But then it's time for me to go to the next base. I leave without saying goodbye to the chick with the bf. I have no interest in her, but now when I try to initiate a convo with her either text or fb, she's acting cold. The same with the married chick too.

Anyway, I could go on and on. I know girls can act weird at times for no logical reason. But this is happening constantly. The moment I show any disinterest, they start acting cold. I hardly compliment girls when I talk to them, I just let the convo go, I usually talk about flying, travelling... I can make almost anyone laugh, and if I am drinking, I am a party animal.

I know these things shouldn't bother me, but I am seeing a pattern here. And it's becoming annoying. So, my question is, what is the solution? Show more interest? I always worry that showing any interest might make me lose the girl. Early on when I started doing approaches, my wingman noticed that I showed too much interest.

Or not to worry about this and carry on as I was?

I dunno exactly what your problem is, but would suggest that you have what I call clunky gear changes.

Some woman do not like a man who is rude, so they just go cold on them anyway.

The pattern seems to me to be a lack of deep enough rapport. Maybe this is an area you could work on.

I suggest that when you freeze a chick out or make her feel jealous that you don't personalise it or highlight it, just come across just as busy or detached,make her wondeer why? this can be done by DHV'ing an out for you that has the same effect as your cold 'n' bold approach that is being misinterpreted.

The A in PUA stands for Artist, practice your art and get them involved/intrigued in your life and what sets you apart.

When a girl you like aswell shows interest do the following:
escalate and show interest back.
Escalating physically will be clear I suppose, verbal escalation is best done using the ciaran's shock & awe technique, which basically equals complimenting her alot.