Hello, I'm new here. Single guy looking to "Up his Game" so to speak. I'm a really introverted guy and miserably shy. I REALLY want to change this and be able to approach women and start a conversation.

I go out regularly. I get looks from women all the time that give me the impression they are interested. The problem is that I have absolutely no idea what to say to them. So I usually just end up staring and wishing. I want to be able to approach women, while not being a nervous wreck! I also need to learn how to hold a conversation without boring the lady.

I know that humor is important when attracting a lady. That's another problem for me. When I'm around friends or people that I know well, I have no problem making them laugh. But when I'm around attractive women, it's almost like my sense of humor is non-existent. Maybe it's because I'm so nervous around women? I'm not sure.

How can I become more confident around women? How can I start a conversation and maintain a conversation, while being interesting and funny?

Also, any book recommendations that can help me out? I've done some research on "The Game", "Rules of the Game", and "Mystery Method," but am not sure which would be the best choice for me. Any comments, advice, recommendations would be appreciated. Thanks.

One approach is to do things one step at a time (baby steps) and build your confidence slowly but surely.

• 1. Try the two exercises I posted in this link: never-picked-up-where-to-begin-vt131071.html
  
  2. Reading eye signals is also important, you might want to try this exercise here so you can master reading eye signals, is-strong-eye-contact-creepy-vt133298.html
  
  3. When you've gained enough confidence, try this conversation style which works better than Neg Theory (at least in my case), just-started-trouble-reaching-social-ho ... 33152.html
  
  4. You should also boost your sexual attractiveness so women will be more comfortable in your presence. Try some of these easy techniques, gaming-a-shy-girl-vt130815.html
  
  5. To help you build deep emotional connections with the girl, learn this eye signal cues so you know which topics that you can drill down on, avoiding-eye-contact-even-after-kc-vt133278.html

One last note, no amount of reading or advice can help you without field practice. You can do this everyday combined with your routine activities.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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focus on INNER GAME


hint: RSDnation

Thanks for the replies. I admit that I do need to improve my inner game. I still want to meet women in the meantime, though.

One thing that's hurting me, also, is when I go to clubs, women ask me to dance with them. I want to dance, but I just can't! And I think this turns ladies off too. The only way I can force myself to get out on a dance floor is to down shots of vodka and get wasted...something I really don't want to do.

Maybe I should avoid the bar scene and just try to meet ladies in other types of environments? Maybe Walmart?

Go with little steps, talk with every girl you see, or you know (6, 7, 8, 9, 10 on scale), because this will help you to be more relaxed around girls. Read some books, but practice is all you count, in book you will find some guide, but every situation with girl is diferent. On one girl will work something, on other will not. Practice, practice, practice... and don't give up...

Read The Game purely because it is interesting, entertaining and is kind of a good introduction to the various schools of thought you are likely to encounter in the world of pickup.

Don't become slavish to any one method, instead, learn little bits and pieces and then practice them relentlessly. Figure out what works best for you and then get really good at it.

Most of all, have fun