I realized something tonight... I think what I have runs deeper than AA. That is, when I see a girl I like I am not agonizing about making a move on her. Somewhere deep inside I know approaching is simply not an option (perhaps a deeply rooted survival instinct at work) so I will throw some looks her way in hopes that she notices me but there is no internal battle about approaching. I simply know I'm not going to do it. Seriously like it isn't even an option. So I'm not stressing over it at all at that moment.

That is until the end of the night when I am kicking myself for yet again not doing anything. I also get somewhat envious of the guys I see that are successfully pulling women. I go out like every single weekend so obviously I want to improve myself. It's really like I need to work my self up just to get to AA.

I have no clue how to move past all this.

Take action damn...Embrace the awkwardness. This is just an excuse you have made up. An illusion

Drink a little to set yourself at ease. And otherwise simply do not pussy out. Raise your glass to women giving you eyecontact and walk over. Easy as cake and she will be open for a chat.

I know exactly how you feel.

Goto the 'Introduce Yourself' section of the forum,
look for "Is your AA holding you back from approaching her? Read this."

I specifically spent a great deal of time putting together a comprehensive
post for the noobs or even guys with AA and how to overcome it
effectively and quickly on that side of the forum. I know how
much this AA is getting to you guys so it's there for you.

Give it a good read, it will help.

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You're going to find that most guys on this forum have the same problem... I get it really bad on some nights but what I do is say to myself 'No i'm going out and doing PU' And me and my friend go out and wing each other and push each other into opening and closing.

It's not going to go away without doing something but just try a few new things out... if you are going to the same places and wearing the same things and buying the same drinks every weekend you're going to continue to have that problem... break you're own comfort zone!

Hope i've helped.

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1. You have to push yourself. AA is Fear of Rejection. And this is problem you have to get rid of in order to improve game from start to finish. I have been there. In fact, I have gone out for months and did not open. Raise that confident into "I don't give a fuck" mode. Live it, just don't believe it and your game will improve crazy status.

2. After opening, mid game is also very tough. But you have to open.

3. Alcohol is a great way to reduce AA. Use it to your advantage. Fuck what people say over here. Other guys at bars do it all the time. In fact, that is why club/bar scene are a popular stop. Girls use it too. Just don't get to the point where others can tell you have been drinking.

4. Get into the habit of having real deep conversation with your wing while your out. This will actually have girls coming up to you and open you.

5. Game is hard to learn. Keep pushing yourself.

Thanks guys! It just really frustrates me sometimes. It feels like I have no will power when it comes to this. I've learned this stuff like crazy but my biggest sticking point is actually approaching a woman. I leave it up to them to make the moves and more often than not I get nothing.

But I will keep trying!!!

I get AA sometimes, especially in super high energy, super loud, male to female ratio sucks environment. Feeling unworthy not to approach the honeys.

But, I figured and studied a lot from RSD nation of how to feel worthy. RSD executive Alexander explained this as Cognitive Dissonance. Basically, sure affirmation like:

"I'm the shit"
"I deserve her"
"I'm the fucking king!"

Sure it's all good to talk positive about yourself, but cognitive dissonance is when you say all of the above but your brain and body does not believe you.

For example: If you play video games all day, or happened to watch all 6 episode of Game of Throne before you game ... then eat Cheetos for dinner ... how can your body believe you when you say "I deserve her" ... then approach. This is just an exaggeration.

So what does it mean to be worthy? When you feel worthy of yourself you will make an effort to take care of yourself. This can be done by pursuing activities that develops you physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Example: You eat healthy, you exercise, you learn something new, you accomplish something that day, and all of a sudden you're brain is given various positive evidence that you're WORTH something.

What's the results? When you go out you feel this awesomeness in your identity and you carry yourself with a sense of value, with a sense of self worth ^_^. Therefore you are congruent/align with your affirmation "I am the shit", "I deserve her", "I'm the fucking king!"

Therefore, when you live in alignment, by the way that you treat yourself (Body and mind) and re affirm the way you feel about yourself (ie: "I'm the fucking shit"), the world can tell and respond to you accordingly.

All information are from RSD forum and by the Executive Coach Alexander!

This helps me a lot not in game but with my overall life ^_^ ...

Sincerely,

Donston

PS: This is just one method but of course if you work out and eat healthy you will feel less stress mentally when faced with fear or pressure ^_^.
PSS: If you do the above already realize that you do! Not a lot of guys do!

What you need is a friend who will pull a Barney Stinson on you. A guy who will take you up to a group of women without you realising, stop infront of them and just say...

"Haaaave you met bp209"

Obviously that name ain't gonna fuckin' fly, but you get the point.

That way, you won't have a choice but to interact and the first few times you'll freeze, you'll choke. You might even cry. But when you realise that if you just say hello you'll look like less a dick it'll get easier and easier. Seriously, you'll hate it at first...but after a few weeks of doing it, you'll find that you have things to say, you'll feel more comfortable and you'll be waiting for the opportunity to talk to people. You'll be waiting and wanting it so much that you won't even need your friend anymore.

And if you still hate it, then there probably is something deep rooted within you that's fucking you up. In this case, you can consider hypnotherapy, counselling and a million and one other options. Chances are though that you'll just get used to it and end up embracing and enjoying it. It's worth a try, right?