so I was thinking about this today, is it ok to ignore the questions a girl asks you over text/online so you can lead the convo in a better direction or towards a better topic?

cause lately I've been messaging some girls on facebook (girls i havn't seen in a while) and i personally think the "how've you been/what've you been up to" convo is kinda lame and boring.

an example is ,i messaged a girl telling her whatsup after about a year of talking and she told me her parents are really mad at her and then she asked how i've been..

like me personally, i'd rather tell her something like "seems like youve been causing some trouble then " rather than "oh i've been good just busy with school and been going out with friends" etc..

like i think one topic is way more interesting than the other. is it bad if you ignore questions you don't feel like answering . like I'd rather talk about her being in trouble than what i've been up to unless I did something fucking amazing. get what i'm saying? I hate the little typical 'lets catch up' convo stuff .

what do you guys think? is this bad

I avoid boring or negative discussions like the plague. Just reframe the discussion into something more interesting. Avoid negativity (this includes family problems). You want this girl to associate you with good feelings, not a memory of her upset parents.
Example:

Her: "My parents are so pissed at me "
"How have you been?"

PUA: "Have you ever been to the zoo here? I saw a monkey the other day with a serious case of the fuck-its. He had this Steve Buscemi look to his eyes lol."

etc...

wow that's so true I never really thought about that..
I think I do tend to focus on the negative a little too much.

what you are trying to say is that you should always try to make her happy? or what

doclift has got it right.

I know naturals that do that to me on things like FB chat. They just don't want to talk about it.

If you're overly negative - she'll start becoming programmed to expect that from you when you text. I save all negative shit for in person or over the phone at the minimum. Texts and emails can lose the context of the words. How many times have you sent a text and a chick's completely taken it the wrong way?

I always defer to being the funny/cocky/random guy.

The monkey in the zoo shit - I'm going to use that - Thanks Doc, that's funny shit.

Throw random comments... "Ever wonder how many people mistook the Keebler treehouse for a glory hole?"

If asked how you are ... "I'm flying over the Rockies in a balloon - how do you think I am?"

Keep them guessing to the point when they open a text from you - they WANT to see what the fuck you say next.

Also - control the response time. If she responds to you in 5 minutes, you wait 10. If she reponds in 30, you wait 45. ALWAYS wait longer - it implants to her that you're not desperate, you're busy, you're active and you don't OVER text. You're safe (Safe to fuck her!!) ...

Good luck.

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Disagree with that one. No need to be sarcastic about it.

Her: How are you?
Me: Good thanks

Then change it to something more interesting. Don't need to ask hows she doing.

Make it your objective to set a positive tone. It doesn't always have to be super interesting. It's always best to end the conversation off on a high note so don't be afraid to end the conversation a little prematurely if it means keeping that positive vibe. You can always pick things up later on once you've got something to talk about.

My text game is awesome. I never get into long-winded messaging I keep it simply, usually funny, not even so much cocky. Keep things light and airy save hard stuff for a meet-up or phone convo but even still your object is to lend an ear but lead it things to something positive.. "OMG you know what sounds perfect right now? I...wait wait wait nevermind...can you be ready in half hour I got the perfect thing in mind!"

Drop in some sexual innuendo reframing something she said as sexual if you're getting that vibe from her (this can backfire if she's not into that way but whatever just laugh the shit off or ignore it and carry on).

It's okay to ignore her questions once in a while so you can lead her to your goal. The important thing is to give her an emotional roller coaster ride. Let her experience a wide variety of emotional experiences with you. And always end the conversation first. Here's a sample.


March 30
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Catrina: Hey - 18:08:58
Hellhound: What are you wearing? - 22:37:55
Catrina: a shirt and leggings. Y? - 22:45:22
Hellhound: What's the color of your undies? - 22:56:11
Catrina: U are such a perv - 22:57:43
Hellhound: You are such a prude. Talk to you later. - 22:58:31


April 4
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Hellhound: Heyah little pervert. Sleep tight. Mwuah. : ) - 00:37:11
Catrina: Now I'm a perv? - 01:00:23
Hellhound: Of course you are. I'm the decent Catholic guy remember? So how was your day? - 01:07:19
Catrina: I can't be a prude and a perv at the same time. Was playing nurse all day - 01:09:23
Hellhound: Who's sick? Tonight, you're the pervert while I'm the prude. - 01:10:52
Catrina: My mom. Fine I'm the perv. Whopee. - 01:11:37
Hellhound: Aren't you going to ask if I have a hard on right now? Play the pervert role properly, duh? - 01:13:23
Catrina: Is this the best you can do?! Stop wasting my time. - 01:16:40
Hellhound: Shut the fuck up and spread your pussy so I can suck your clit. - 01:17:52
Catrina: Sexting is not charming me at all. - 01:20:12
Hellhound: Talk to you later frigid bitch. - 01:21:21
Catrina: Whatever. - 01:23:25


April 11
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Catrina: Busy? - 15:22:35
Hellhound: Did some community service for the church. You should go to church too. It's good for your soul. : ) - 16:52:43
Catrina: maybe i should. - 17:05:41
Hellhound: We should go to church one of these days and make out at the confessional. Maybe I can bang you standing up. Doggie style would be great too. - 17:12:47
Catrina: eeew. why do it there? geeez. - 18:28:26
Hellhound: I'm a very religious man. Are you an atheist? - 20:14:58
Catrina: Agnostic. - 20:15:26
Hellhound: Cool. I hate chicks who blaspheme during sex. Some are not contented with a simple "Oh, God. Oh, God." Some take it too far with "Praise the Lord. Hallelujiah. Faster. Faster. Faster. Harder. Harder. Amen." - 20:18:31
Catrina: Lol! You like it loud? - 20:46:35
Hellhound: I just want a simple 10-hour banging until your entire body shakes and shudders from multiple orgasms. I want you to have clitoral orgasms, pubococcygeus muscle orgasms, g-spot orgasms and deep spot orgasms. I'll bang you on top, side ways, at the back, and so on. So what's the most number of orgasms did you have in a single banging? - 21:00:46
Catrina: 1per round - 21:04:42
Catrina: [Calls twice. Didn't answer since I have a visitor sleeping on my bed.]
Hellhound: Talk to yah later sweet little pervert. Mwuah. : ) - 21:25:16

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

There are large lapses of time in between contact, were you actually meeting with this chick in between or is the communication relegated to texting?

If you have in fact already met and banged this girl, working from a sexual frame is easy and relatively safe to do. However, if there's that lack of comfort which typically comes before having sex, operating from a purely sexual frame would be a bad move unless the girl's a complete slut.

^I found those quite comical. Cool stuff.

No. This is just framing for the F-Close so time won't be wasted during the meet up.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

You don't have to answer the questions but girls find it nice if they don't get ignored! Having said that, if you don't wana answer it then you can lie and give her an answer that will make you seem like an interesting guy.

I'd put more emphasis on getting her out rather than trying to work solely from a sexual frame.

Two things might be occurring here:
-If you are the type who feels comfortable operating from such a frame through media but can't do the same face-to-face the girl will feel like you've pulled a bait n' switch. I'd never operate from too sexual a frame without meeting the girl first simply because you don't know what sort of tension, if any, will exist between the two of you until you've met, and also if the frame is too strong trying to be congruent to it in person may have a whole other set of implications tied in to it (e.g., coming off as sleazy, or even worse a sexual predator).
-She might simply want to keep your little fantasy to text, rather than risk losing the thrill by meeting you. It's safe for her to act out her fantasy through cyberspace or text because it's a low risk activity. One of the things I immediately thought about was the time lapse between each conversation (5 and 8 days respectively). If you aren't meeting with somewhere in between to me it just seems as though she's comfortable texting. Her calling you is a good thing, not taking her call because you had company over is one thing, but not returning the call is another altogether, ESPECIALLY because from what I gather you've yet to return her call at a day later. This seems more like micro avoidance on your part because if your intent is to meet her than it'd behoove you to take initiative and return the call and actually get her to meet with you, particularly if you want to "f-close" as you'd indicated.


That said, OP I think using push/pull tactics can be a great technique for building sexual tension but at some point (hopefully sooner than later) you're leading to an actual meet.

You missed the points of the advice for OP's problem.

• 1. Ignore some questions so you can lead her to your goal.
  
  2. Give her a wide variety of emotional experiences.
  
  3. Always end the conversation first.

I'm not asking for a crystal ball reading or your advice on my phone game since I currently don't have any problem in this area that I can solve on my own. I'm taking my time on this girl because aside from the f-close, I'm framing her to spend for the f-date. Compliance baiting is one of the skills I'm trying to perfect for the long term. I only ask for advice when I need it.

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Approach. Open. Escalate. Isolate

Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

general-questions/topic137931.html

It all depends on your personality and how it's received.... COntext is a bitch sometimes, I grant you.

Here - I did this exactly with a HB8 from California.

Her: It's been a couple days how r u?
Me: I'm flying over the Rockies in a hot air balloon at the moment, how do you think I am?
Her: Sounds like fun - you should stop by!
Me: WOuld love to, but a jet stream just shot me past Portland....
Her: So close and you won't stop by. You lost MAJOR points Cowboy!
Me: I'm trying to make it go south... Oh Shit, there's Santa! Hi Santa!
Her: What'd he say?
Me: He said I'm on the good list - but you're screwed!
Her: How do I get off the naughty list?
Me: Stick with me baby, I'll get you off.



I'm a smart ass from the word go - I've always been. It's expected from me and never taken seriously...just my personality type I guess.

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