Hi, new member here. I joined this form for some advice so, thanks u all in advance.

Last year, i met this gorgeous woman from school, who also happens to be my co-worker. We had our moments together, i had a gf at the time, and she was in a bad relationship, we briefly kissed on the lips but my dumb ass didnt act on it at the time (despite i know my relationship was ending anyway) so we stayed as friends.

Fast forward a few months to feb, where after i haven't seen her at all for 2 months And officially single. I had a chance to be alone with her, so i told her that i still think of her, i think we can have nice something going between us, so let's hangout a bit more to try to see where things go. Well, we hungout, had our moments where we lean towards each other, exchanging compliments - the usual things guys and girls do but wouldn't let me hold her hands most of the time.

Last week after one of her vacations with her bf, i've began to notice the friend zone behavior with me; she keep me around just enough, but wouldn't let me take things to another level. The worst part is, she brings her bf along in situations where we could totally be alone.

My friends have been telling me in subtle cues for a while that she's keeping me around for male attention when her bf goes on trips (where hes outta town 5days a week) and i didn't want to believe it until now. After all, i am sure enough of you can relate to moments where you saw a unique side of her thinking it was special or been blinded in some way shape or form. Anyway, i've had enough of her crap and started my own lil friend zone game, not replying her text, or respond just to respond, seeing and dating other woman and, she began to text me more frequently, trying to initiate convos, put in tons of smileys and whatever.

Here's the issue:
For the next few months, for better or for worse i'll be seeing her 7 days a week for the next few months. (weekday + weekend classes) but i definitely don't plan to warm up to her again anytime soon. the thought of knowing that i gave some girl all my attention, thoughts only to find out that she just wants to box up the heart, shelf and mark it with numbers and rankings makes me feel quite sick. It is just not cool. I've already avoided the whats wrong question once, but it will come up again for sure.

I may be naive, hopelessly still some what caring for this girl. She's calculating, selfish and there are way more chicks out there that's worth my time, but i don't care about none of it for no body is perfect. I want to tackle this bs face on, walk out of this whole ordeal with her holding my hand and i'll figure out what to do with her afterwards.

So here's the million dollar question: how should i confront her and turn the tables around when she pops the question? More precisely phrased, should I pretend that nothing is wrong, give subtle hints or play the victim, call her out on her misdeeds but phrase it kindly (meaning- make it known that she is not innocent, but i am still giving all this a chance despite all the shaddyness)

I am sure many of you can relate with similar experiences. Thanks for the help.

KL

Just act like nothing is wrong. After all, she didn't really do anything malicious to you. She just wants you as a friend. What did you expect? She has a boyfriend already and she's probably happy with him. If she asks what's wrong, you will just dig yourself deeper if you "call her out" or show any negativity toward the situation.