Hi guys,

My GF is a virgin and she said she never had an orgasm before, anyway i went down on her a couple of times including like 30 minutes ago and afterwards we talked about it and she said she had an orgasm and she swore on her mother's life etc. that kind of stuff but the thing is i didn't notice much at all.. i didn't believe her at first but she said it really happened so im wondering now..

Is it that she never felt an orgasm before that she might think that she orgasm'd but didn't ? Or did she really orgasm and i just didn't notice it (lol?)

I felt some contractions in her vagina a couple of times but i doubt that was it, i also went down on her like 35 minutes if not more and used the same rythm a lot of the time but she didn't push me away cause it was sensitive or anything..

Sometimes it's kind of hard to tell depending on what position you're in. Her body will typically shudder a bit and she'll have several contractions, I think around 6-10 on average. After that she'll push you away.

She was just laying on her back and me between her legs going down, anyway thing is she didn't push me away so i didn't think she had one then

Regardless, don't worry about it so much. Every woman is different and her reaction to having one will vary. Just focus on pleasuring her, and if you're really that concerned, read up on it a bit. I prefer the book She Comes First.

If you keep thinking about it you'll develop performance anxiety, and that will absolutely rape you. Sex is supposed to be fun, so just make it fun and relaxing for both of you.

lol i saw her again yesterday and same thing happened, afterwards we were kinda talking and she said she orgasmsd again and i asked

me: Doesn't it get super sensitive afterwards?
her: yea how do you know? Is it the same with guys?
Me: yes! But why dont you stop me then if it's too sensitive it can't feel good right?
Her: Yea but its seems so stupid to make u stop

So it seems to me that she was afraid to make me stop cause she thought i would think that i didn't do a good job or something?

Anyway she is very inexperienced with sex so maybe she was indeed scared to stop me

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Kevin Arnold is that you?

Most researchers in this area just put out written questionnaires about women's orgasms so these studies are not very accurate. Kline-Graber actually measured and observed naked women having orgasms using various contraptions and equipment. So Kline-Graber's indicators of women's orgasms are very accurate.

I've field tested fuck routines that I've derived from Kline-Graber's on many women working in sauna parlors (I can't remember how many but too many to count) and 100% of these women who get laid 12 to 16 times a day are very surprised of having vaginal orgasms for the first time. Some have had clitoral orgasms from oral sex but they're in the minority.

These are the field tested indicators with scientific backing:

• 1. Involuntary abdominal spasms. The girl's abdomen hardens for a few seconds and you'll see the spasms.
  
  2. Involuntary shuddering of the whole body. This occurs when the girl raises both of her tense legs to meet your penis; partially raising her body and her entire body shudders, most especially her legs. This is not like an epileptic seizure. The shuddering is more subtle but clearly distinguishable.
  
  3. Involuntary vaginal contractions which makes the labia minora and the vaginal opening twitch. Mild orgasms have 2 to 4 involuntary contractions while intense orgasms have 6 to 8 involuntary contractions.
  
  4. Reddening of the chest. This does not happen often.
  
  5. Others. These happen only to certain women.

The best way to illustrate this is through Japanese porn actress Ai Himeno who is very orgasmic. At any rate, 35 minutes of fishing for clitoral orgasms is too long. You should aim for the different vaginal orgasms which will make the woman better fulfilled and satisfied.

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Thanks a lot for the response !
This thing i recognize what happened yesterday, vaginal contractions as well, the others i didn't really notice/look out for.

Thank you hellhound! I well remember this when I succeed my subduction.

Also, her body tempature may raise slightly. Specially between her legs. You may or may not feel it because your body tempature may raise also.

Good luck!