I am a newly divorced old guy approaching 50. I want to start dating and it has been almost 3 decades since I last dated. To make matters worse, I am in a new city with no friends (I will try to change that).
I feel completely lost. Do any of you guys have any suggestions - where should I start, where should I go? I am too old for clubs and don't really have the social confidence to just start talking to women on the street.
Are there any boot camps for guys like me?
I live in Canada.

Becoming a social individual is your priority right now, you could try to sign up for dance classes, or some kind of club, you want to meet people and brush up your social skills, engaging in plenty of conversations. If you are new to that city get used to the area, to the most visited places. There has to be some bar, or coffee shop, where more mature people get together. Maybe even a bookstore.

Have you read The Game by Neil Strauss? That's probably a good inspirational starting point for you, I'd bet that's how 90%+ of the PUA community active today found out about it.

Some good basic starting points are as follows -

*Feel good about yourself. Think about all the benefits your age might bring (more money, maturity, career advancement). Check out Jack Nicholson, Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan. All older guys who even young women would go for in an instant.

*Make your life as attractive as possible. Pursue your hobbies and interests, make sure your wardrobe is well fitting and age appropriate.

*Find out ways to meet people in your new city. Either through work, or join some kind of club or sports group, or gym, whatever it is you're into, which you could meet interesting women through.


You've taken the first step on an awesome journey try and feel excited about all the possibilities in store!

I am 21, and I used to be in your shoes, with no friends in college. Things have changed for me now. But before you have any girls, you must have a mindset of getting friends. It sounds cliche and like duh, but its TRUE. When women see you with other men and women having fun talking they will be attracted to you naturally. Trust me, just dont focus on meeting women for sleeping with them. Meet women, to socialize. Socialize, socialze and socialize.

If you haven't dated, skip the bar scene, it will be worse for you. Try to find women at work, or at malls, or grocery stores, Older women will be more into organizations and clubs. But, again DO NOT go there to pick up chicks AT ALL. Go there to socialize, and have fun. If you make some guy friends, maybe they can help you or invite you to parties where you can meet women. I know you may have heard this many times before, but it works. I had been doing it for months now, made friends, and on my way to get chicks in college. Just do what me and other guys are telling you.

Doesnt matte if you are old, young women like older men. Watch the movie "As good as it gets". Also, try restaurants, or grocery stores, of cofee shops.

I recommend skipping PUA entirely. My guess is you're looking for a woman to marry for the long term. Check out Scot Mckay, he's about having the inner game that will get you the woman you really want.

dude this guy just got out of his marriage. let him breathe for a while. then if he wants someone to marry, its up to him. right now, just let him have fun with ladies and enjoy life.