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It's been nearly a year since I first joined these forums, and I didn't notice this until I looked at the date I joined below my name. Then I started to think about where I was in April 2011, and I can't believe it. I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible since no one likes to read a novel-sized post. I'm just thinking this post might serve as a motivational boost to newcomers.
I joined this community a year ago because of a girl I was in a relationship with. As it turned out, she was a hardcore drug abuser. I'm not talking about stupid shit like weed. She was heavily addicted to Oxycodone, cocaine, and all kinds of other things that I didn't even know existed at the time. I was sheltered from that kind of thing my whole life since that just wasn't something people did where I'm from. It was all kind of a myth to me - something I had heard about but had never witnessed. She was obtaining these drugs from her ex-boyfriend. And to make matters worse, she wasn't paying cash for them.
But, stupid me, I stayed with her because I didn't know any better. Up until several months into the relationship I had no clue she did any of this shit. And even after I found out she was an addict, I still stayed with her because I was so weak-minded and completely reliant on being in a relationship. My happiness was centered around her. I asked for advice countless times on these forums and I refused to heed everyone's warnings that I need to get rid of her ASAP. Only after I found out she was cheating on me (and after his ex showed up at my house and threatened me with a gun, crazy motherfucker) did I finally break it off.
I spent the next several months just focusing on myself. I lost weight, gained some muscle, enhanced my diet, read all kinds of self-improvement books, found new hobbies, and gained new friends. My confidence skyrocketed. I changed my style of clothing, my haircut, and even began focusing on little details like the type of cologne I wore, all for the sake of revolutionizing my life that I was so unsatisfied with. I scoured these forums for hours each day to learn as much as I could about talking to women and becoming more socially adept. If I didn't understand something, I asked for clarification. Despite what a lot of people say, most of the guys on this forum are incredibly helpful. This transformation was overwhelming at first, but eventually it all just started to click.
Suddenly, women began to notice me. I wasn't used to being chased before, but I will say that when it happened it was incredibly rewarding. I soon adopted the mentality that I really am the prize - and I truly believe that with everything in me. Instead of being friend-zoned, I was the one friend-zoning other women which only enhanced my social proof. I also noticed I was far more in-tune to my emotions. It is now nearly impossible to anger me and I'm almost always happy. If something bad happens, it's very easy for me to either solve the problem or shrug it off as fate.
Finally, I met a girl who fit all my criteria for a relationship. And thanks to what I learned from my last year of self-improvement, I am now happily in a relationship with her. It's pretty much impossible to explain in words how rewarding it is to have done this all for myself. To be able to select a woman out of the crowd who I think is relationship material and complements me perfectly, and to be able to be with her just because I want her in my life. The fact that I was miserable with some drug-addicted rat just one year ago is absolutely amazing to me.
If you're here to revolutionize your lifestyle the way I did, you'll have your ups and downs, but trust me, if you stick with it you'll get what you want in the end.
Thanks for sharing this. I definitely appreciate it
CHAT
