so my ex girlfriend has started popping back into my life. now i know that everyones advice is going to be something along the lines of "it didnt work the first time give up etc etc" but you know what? this is a mistake i have to make. so dont try and talk me out of it.

ok so for the background we kissed two months ago and it was very emotional. a week later she told me she didnt want a relationship during a drunken arguement. so i froze her out for a month, went to thailand and got myself in order and since then she has started coming into my work weekly where she is very flirty (bringing up old jokes, touching me etc). my mum invited her to breakfast tomorow which she is going to and a week ago at a bar she brought up our sexual history and flirted alot. anyway my instincts are telling me she is somewhat interested and seeing as i was with her for quite some time im going to go with my instincts on this one.

oh one other thing. im pretty sure she is casually seeing a few guys but nothing serious.

my plan is to go about it as if she were a completely new girl and i will be courting her as though she is a new girl, taking it very slowly. and rebuilding attraction the way i did back in 2009. i would love a bit of advice on this topic as lets be serious it is messing with my head and i know i need to find out for sure. anyone got some insight on ex girlfriends?

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

honestly buddy, hit it again and then pay attention to how she acts afterwards. she might just want to hook up, she might want a relationship. play her game

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i can't wait to get laid

Ok so this morning her and mother duck had breakfast an she decides to send me a photo of a gnome (we stole a gnome when we were together) we then texted for a few hours and she told me she wasn't going to come into work tonight... I spoke to mum and she said that the guy who I had seen as competition has a gf (she never mentioned that to me so I assume she's trying to make me jealous). Anyway the ex ended up coming into work tonight anyway "changed my mind" she said. She also told me she had had a few beers before she came in (I'm thinking slightly drunk decision to come in) and she was really dressed up. Then she went into the bathroom and got even more dressed up (she is going out with work friends which is why she wasn't gong to come in) an stood around waiting for me to notice before she left. I walked her out and we chatted a little bit. And that brings us to right about now where I'm sitting on the toilet at work writing this.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms

Make your move. The world can be yours, know what you want and go for it. If you want to hit that, then act like you want it. If you don't, then why bother writing this?

this isnt going to be a make a move moment man, i understand what you are trying to say but it is going to take work and patience to put our past behind us. she is only finally coming around and starting to show interest and if i make a move (a big move anyway) i am certain that it would scare her off.
i need to play it cool and take my time. although i am having trouble deciding what to do from here as talking to her in any form be it txt, facebook or a phone call is not something we typically do but i cant rely on bumping into her. im almost considering throwing a party next week just so i can send her an open ended invite.

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just because my name is safety doesn't mean i like condoms