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1. Is the friend zone inescapable?
Absolutely, positively not. Honestly, I don't even believe in a "friend zone". To me, that's a term made up by some pouty guys who didn't end up getting what they wanted. The friend zone only exists if you let it, and this is a fact. What's wrong with being friends with a girl first before you date her? It will create a much stronger relationship with less cheating, more fun, better communication, and the list can go on forever.
The majority of relationships I've been in, including the one I'm in now, have spawned from being friends first.
2. If not, what are some ways you can escape it?
Don't be her personal whipping boy. Don't try to help her out by talking to her about other guys, including her boyfriend or ex-boyfriend. That won't get you anywhere and she'll just end up seeing you as the go-to guy for advice. Escaping from the fictitious entity known as the friend zone is not as difficult as people believe. In fact, it's not even that tedious. She's your friend anyway, so obviously she likes you as a person enough to give you the time of day.
The core method you need to understand is that you need to get her to see you in a new light. Build sexual tension with her by teasing her extra hard, slowly increasing the amount of kino you use on her. It would be weird as hell if you randomly started hugging her if you've never done that before, so that's why you have to start slow and subtle. For a few days, just brush her arm or shoulder while you're telling a story. Then move on to grabbing her shoulder to emphasize a point. Eventually, when you're joking around with her, run into her playfully and see what she does. This is a good way to gauge how much more "severe" you can be with your kino.
At some point, you can invite her to do things with you alone. What's wrong with getting a cup of coffee together? No risk there. And slowly, you can make these "dates" more complex and interesting, such as going to a concert together or even a museum, walk in the park, etc. During all of this, kino is your best friend. I can't stress enough how powerful it is. You absolutely have to build sexual tension or she'll never see you in that way.
Let's fast forward a bit since I don't want to write a book here. After a few of these "amplified" dates, gauge your progress honestly. How's her body language? Do you feel like she's into you? Trust your instincts on this one. If you think she's interested, go for a kiss and see what happens. But at NO POINT should you ever put all the cards on the table and tell her how much you like her, or ask her if you can kiss her or anything stupid like that.
Worried about things being weird between the two of you if the kiss doesn't work out? I promise, it's not that big of a deal. I've been rejected by friends before and I'm still just as strong of friends with them as ever. Man up and erase all doubt in your mind.
3. What are the most common AFC mistakes that lead you into the friend zone?
Do not ever tell her that you actually like her, or want a relationship or whatever. This will instantly remove any challenge she may have perceived and it'll ruin the entire thing. Similarly, don't ask her stupid shit like "Can I kiss you?" or "Can I take you out to dinner?". Merely having confidence isn't enough - you need to show it. The reason for this is that even if she is interested in you, most females are afraid they'll ruin the friendship they've built with you. You need to exude confidence so that she will feel like you're strong enough to protect the relationship if things don't work out.
Do not rush things. You cannot jump into things too quickly or it will scare the shit out of her. Most guys end up freaking out if a girl isn't giving them strong enough signals quickly enough and think they need to amplify the transaction. Don't do that. In this type of scenario, the girl will be far less likely to give you IOIs at first since she feels so protective of your current friendship. That doesn't mean she isn't thinking about being with you or anything like that. Transition smoothly and naturally.
Calm the hell down on texting. You guys love to text and I still don't know why. Even if you've read all those stupid texting e-books, you're going to fuck up eventually and say something stupid. A few texts here and there is one thing, but give her some time to breathe.
That's all I can think of for now. I'm sure I missed a few points, but this is the gist of it. If you get anything out of this, I hope it's that the friend zone really is an imaginary restriction created by people who are too inadequate to understand the process of building a relationship from friendship.
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