So here's my situation. (sorta a long read too sorry) A while ago I did a pretty AFC/needy thing for a particular girl that I use to have pretty bad Oneitis. I had not talked to her for about a year and some months and decided to try to tackle her once and for all now that I had much more experiance under my belt and confidence after this year of gaming.

I had lunch with her and it was great. I teased her and she responded and excalated sexually as well as ended the date with a good kiss and ended it by playing a cool card and just walking off not giving any signs of wanting to meet again untill she pulled me back and said somethign along the lines of " I hope I can see your much sooner then a year this time around." and I just said "If your lucky you will."


As far as I was concern, this went great, untill I broke down a few weeks into around valentines day and ended up SENDING HER FLOWERS TO HER WORK. I know, i know, how bad was this?.... Well I did it thinking this would win the cake for me. It looks like the old one itus symptoms were coming back. ... she ended up loving them supposively. Sent me multiple long text telling me how much I mean to her and that she did not understand why I was stll single when I was this sweet and that she wanted to treat me to dinner the following week. (It has now been over 3 weeks since this...)

Naturally, I responded well thinking, "yes it did the trick!" But it has not been over three weeks of constant "iam going to be bust that day" blah blah stuff. Now I'll give her the benefit of the doubt on somethings because she is a nurse and also helps out in her parents restaurants.


My plan was just to shut her off untill she asked me again about going out.. while I stay gaming other women to keep my mind of my hopefully ex-oneitus situation.

Alternatively, i was also thinking a bout texting her tommorow night and either A. Calling her out on her bullshit

or B. Just be cool about the situation and ask someting like, "so how about this week at place X and time X?"


Sorry for the long post but any advice would be awesome. I'am really not sure how to proceed on this case and fear to fall back into obsessing over this girl again. Thanks.

Don't call her out on her bullshit, because there's no bullshit to begin with. She didn't really do anything wrong. Just call her up and get her to go out with you again. It seems like she was pretty into you anyway, but since you let it go for 3 weeks she may have lost interest by now.

Also, telling her if she's lucky she'll see you again is a douchey thing to say. Don't do that.

You're too emotionally charged, you come at her like this odds are she'll give you the shoulder.

Get a hold of yourself. Once you've done this you can approach asking her out without having an undercurrent of attitude, negativity. She owes you nothing, get it straight.

ok so thanks. so just play it cool and ask her out again? Isn't this sounding too needy? and what did you mean by being emotionally charged?

It's only needy if you come off as needy.

Honestly, it feels like you're way too deep into the technicalities of pickup. It's obvious you've been doing your homework but I think you are applying things the wrong way and might have misunderstood a few core concepts. My advice would be to stop trying so hard to do things "by the book" for a bit until you get it straightened out.

hmm, then how should i go about asking her out again? in what manner? and yeah, I really need to stop with by the book stuff.. it's getting to me.