Think I fucked up....had a 2nd date with this girl....she stayed the night...made our way to the bed, got on top of her got her clothes off and was gonna go down on her but she didnt want me to, she just wanted me to stick it in....Only problem was I couldnt fuckin get hard!...I think I have performance anxiety as this has happened once before with a new chick....anyways I was pissed she was pissed but stayed the night anyways....next day we woke up, tried again, got hard but not super hard but busted anyways. We spent the rest of the next day together and just kinda lounged around then she went home that night. She text me and called me when she got home cause she lives an hour away. I told her I felt shitty about my "issue" and she that I made up for it and that its all good but I got a gut feeling that I blew it and she will either put me in the friends zone or we will just go our seperate ways....any thoughts or advice....there is more to it but I didnt wanna make a really long post

if she text'd / called u i dont think u blew it , dont blow it out of proportion man , just link up another meet up , be a lil romantic and make sure ur dicks working this time there is nothing to be nervous about cause ur the man .

im surprised she didnt want u to go down on her .. tsk tsk silly girl

if she text'd / called u i dont think u blew it , dont blow it out of proportion man , just link up another meet up , be a lil romantic and make sure ur dicks working this time there is nothing to be nervous about cause ur the man .

im surprised she didnt want u to go down on her .. tsk tsk silly girl

Agreed I think if she texted you and is still talking to you . You did not blow it yet . Make sure though the next time you work her like a mule because she needs to know you have the ablitity to do that .

Okay....now how do I keep this thing out of the friend zone, cause I think this is where its leading now!

You gotta relax dude. You got a girl to your place, something had to be going right. If you think about it all the time, your performance issue'll keep comin back.

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Yeah man, RELAX. This has happened to me and it was never an issue for the girl. It stopped happening when I was comfortable with her and that was that. I don't think you should have mentioned it - in future just act like you're not fazed by it at all, like it's not even an issue. It's only an issue if you MAKE it an issue.

Tackling performance anxiety is all about learning to RELAX. There's no need to dive right in - foreplay is fun and it can last as long as you want it to. Try getting her to go down on you first. You'll struggle to get hard if there is a sense of urgency or the situation is tense - so breathe deeply, explore each other's bodies and only go to stick it in when you're both really excited.

I just want to add something that not many guys know. Are you aware that this sort of thing is extremely common? In fact, it's part of our hardwiring? If you feel nervous before sex, you won't be able to get it up because your arousal circuitry has been programmed that way - in ape days, having sex was RISKY. If there was any risk of being interrupted by another male or a predator, imagine how detrimental to your escape a massive hard on would be! Haha, so there's nothing wrong with you. You aren't any less of a man. Your body is just reacting to the nervousness in your head. You'll stop having trouble when you practice deep breathing (breathe into your stomach - this forces the body to relax) and you are comfortable with the girl in question. Hope this helps dude.

Thanks guys...this has happend to me before but the other girls didnt make that big of a deal out of it but this chick kinda made a big deal of it which made things worse for me ya know. Well anyways her situation is that she still lives with her ex boyfriend so Im figuring that this will just become a friends with benefits sorta deal which I would be okay with as long as there are BENEFITS lol....anyways I think my plan of attack is to pay her less attention and make her chase me. I think it will work because we are used to talking or texting each other almost everyday and so she WILL notice when I dont respond to her texts and calls all the time. In turn this will hopefully make her want to meet up again and fuck and in return I will show her more attention after the deed is done...Does this sound like a legit attack plan? advice is welcome as I have been outta the game for awhile lol

Possibly, but she might think your lack of contact is due to embarrassment.

Get some viagra

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Well Ive been playing it cool with her...texts and calls here and there but not like it used to be. I have a feeling she is gettin back with her ex. What do you think I should do? Should I maybe just not talk or text her for a couple days even when she calls or texts me?...I feel like Im on the verge of the friendzone!

Don't ever be so serious if that happens...just grin/laugh it off. You could actually subconsciously blame it on her...say its never happend before hmmm

Take some cayenne pepper...l-argine. Google natural ways to treat erectile dysfunction. Theres a supplement called co*kstar my buddy loves.

Happens to all of us one time or another...if you do pop a Viagra and rock her world it wont hurt but prob unnecessary due to all the natural ways to increase erections. Also you need to take control in the bedroom bro...man up and make her suck it first

Towards your problem of keeping it hard, just stop fapping for a week. Should fix a lot of things!

Im not too concerned about gettin it hard anymore...I know I can...Im more concerned with trying to get her back in bed. Any advice? should I freeze her out for a couple days?

Dude, it looks like you're always looking for the reason that she wont wanna hook up again.
watch the language you speak in...

anyways, all the guys told you about their take, and by the way you portray it the girl doesn't feel bad about you supposedly not getting hard...

Think about this - girls get a bit scared that they are not attractive too when someone does not get hard on them...

It looks like you are doing fine.

hope this helps