Not really sure what to make of this girl. Met her for coffee and the attraction was on...negged her,Dlv, dhv the works (am a mystery subscriber That got my foot in door and a date ... built a bridge and we went out a couple days later. We went target shooting and that got the attraction going even stronger. Tried some kinetics and she was into it. However the timing was off ( we both had to work the next day so no close. So we player phone tag for the next few days...till she finally caved and invited me for drinks with a friend?? She shows up with this four fingered dude she met at a work traininig event. She literally kidnapped the man, he had no ride and lived an hour away. So here we were at Chilli's having drinks and she's cutting up with the whole bar(I later learned she was a regular there) and dude has no game hes pawing her like yesterdays meatloaf but not getting anywhere and am wondering wtf? Cause she still giving me some serious IOI's. I finally got fed up of playing second fiddle ( not into sharing) and saw where the evening was going and bailed. Sent her a text message on my way home " I just don't get you...and that's probably for the best. She comes back with "I said I'm not in a place to date right now. I thought we were cool as friends for right now" so I come back with " I have plenty of friends, thanks for the drinks" and that's that. Really wanted to close but like I said I'm not into sharing. Any advise on how to move from here??

You handled it really well good job. Most guys would pander in this situation but you stood your ground. I would have done few things differently. Now after so many months of training girls don't tell me anymore we're just friends. But when i started off this used to happen to me alot. The way to handle that is to be as direct as possible. Listen I am sure you don't need her as friend. So i would be as direct as i can. If she says we're just friends I would say " look I'll be honest I think you're fucking hot and want you. I like you and I know you like me so ill leave it up to you to decide". You got to be straight with your intentions.

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I like how beong direct can be beneficial, but wouldn't doing it that way give her too much power? Or am I wrong?

Thanks for the advice AmazingArt, that's some good stuff. I learned a lot from this experience, hell I wasn't sure of the dynamics and thought at first that she had brought dude as a chaperon. But as the night wore on I quickly realized I've been set up for a cockfight with this girl as the prize. Funny thing me being Latin and all and having grown up around real cockfights! Once I saw what was up I told dude he was my new best friend and started befriending while neging the HB every chance I got. I even came up with a nickname for him once I found he was still married and going through a divorce ..MC....(married cripple LOL!) And started throwing it at him, and fist bumping like we known each other for years...course he didn't know that lol. Later on I found out he worked for the city streets department. A comedy gold mine I tell you.Just before I bailed my parting shot to him was have fun pumping the sewers MC! I'm tempted to let the HB in on the joke if she ever calls back and really burn that bridge in style!