Hi there,

after the break up with GF ( since 2 days ), she text me for asking me if the application i had today went well.

her sms is like : "hi, maybe you will not appreciate me texting you, but i was just wondering if you're application went well today. let me know ok "


What shall i do ? must i awnser in a few hours or right away or in a few days or just ignore her at all for some time?

And please tell me WHY i should react like you say...

thnx !

She wants your attention and misses you and trying to find a way to reconnect with you. If you just broke up with her and trying to get her back then don't respond. If you want to be friends with her then by all means do so.

When SHOULD i respond ?

Thnx for reply btw !

I'm guessing you don't want her any more?... so...It doesn't hurt being a friend to someone you used to date or were previously intimate with. The way I look at it is, since I'm so comfortable/confident with myself that every encounter with a female good or bad was an experience. Experience is a gift because now you can't make the same mistake twice (unless you're a fool), when you run into someone else like her you can identify it easier, know what you look for in a woman and just so many more perks.

With that, every girl after the girl I broke up with or whatever will always be better than the previous. So in return I thank her for the opportunity and experience and move on. No need to hold empty grudges, it kills your self-esteem and eats away at you inside.

From my experience, every time I acted friendly to a girl who I was in a relationship with even when she did me wrong usually came back. She just looks at you like, "HOW DARE HE BE SO FORGIVING!" or "WHY IS HE OK WITH WHAT I DID TO HIM?". That mystery alone has them thinking about you ALL DAY long and wanting you back. Just act cool and move on. Respond... It doesn't matter in the end bro.

Do you wana get back with her? was she the one who ended the relationship?

Then ignore her text completely, i know it sounds hard and harsh but trust me if you want her to want you back then you gotta do it. Tonight, tomorrow or in a few days she's gona text you and ask you why you're being weird with her, leave it for at least for 5 hours then text her back and say i just been busy that's all. Very simple, don't give her the attention she wants now, let her earn it.

I am not really sure whether i want her back or not.
My goal for now is to let HER come to my place.

In the past i was always the one who ran after her like a dog. I now want it to be the other way around.

Now i want her to tell of that she misses me and i want her to beg me to see me instead me running
to her AGAIN.

That is my goal. I now want to be the price and she has to win the price.

So what is the best thing to do? Respond or on respond?

I was the one causing the break up.

She just text me like this : 'so you do not want me to bother you no more. You are probablyalready busy with another girl. I will go on with planning my days. Doors closed.'

I have respond with me being busy and told her my application went well.

What's up next to do for me?

Well i understand where you are coming from and every guy would want that after a relationship. I knew she was gona text you again and if you hadn't replied then she would have texted you again and again. You should left it for a few hours before replying and should have said 'i just been busy and yeah it went okay thanks. And why does it matter whether i been busy with another girl or not? you're the one who finished what we had'

You goal is to make her think that she is LOSING you, that way she'll come back running like a dog. You know what they say, a hungry dog doesn't get fed

Dude

I was the one who caused the break, not her.

I did wait a few hours before text me that sms.

So i respond with me being busy and all went well.
She replied with good luck and she hopes i will get the job.

After that i only replied with thnx.

Should i stop texting her from now on?
What if she keeps on texting me?

You shouldnt have texted her and sayin thanks, she should been the one with the last text this is a mind game and girls always fall for it. Don't bother texting her or initiating any form of contact whether facebook, msn or whatever. She will text you again sometime soon, so just be prepared in how to deal with it. Always leave it for long periods that she's not usually used to. In the past if you used to text her back within minutes from her text now you should wait hours and hours Showing you're not interested will make the girl more interested

Since she is showing evident signs that she misses you just let her do all the work now. Don't initiate any texts and be very brief. The things you say are key here, I'd say to give her the vibe like you don't care but at the same time give her the perception that she has a chance to get back with you if she works a little harder.

It's not the easiest thing to display but the not the hardiest since she's chasing you right now.

Okay and what if she text me again with 'you don't respond so i will plan all my days and my doors are closed for you from now on ! '

should i ignore those words right ?

She just text me 'do you already have another girl ??'

I replied 'wtf? No.'

You are doing it WRONG! Why the fuck are you texting her? why do you have to explain yourself to her? You giving her the attention she wants and then when she get's another guy then you won't get a single text.

Want her to beg for you then ignore her, if she says she will close the door then ignore her. If you really wana text her back then just say 'i don't have control over what you do or how you feel'

Forget having to explaing yourself to her, you are single! + you reply to her back so quick so it's like we not said anythin on here :S

first of all i want to thank you for your advice so far!

The last text i have send her was that i was going to watch a movie. I did not reply anymore.
Well, i got an sms 2 hours later : 'well get lost, i will not run after you like a dog, i did a lot of things to show you i an serious about our relation. You did not.'

Well, like i said, i was always the one who would come over to her over and over. She did not.
When i asked her why she wouldn't come over to me, she said like... Yeah well you are arguing with me so why should i come over to you. That would never gonna happen !

In her case, she did do some things to make it possible to be wtried ith me. When i was at her place she tried to have a day of from work. But when we had sex, it was often very late before we went to sleep and she could only sleep 2 or 3 hours and then had to go to work. She also mentioned that go her sms. It was her way to show me she was the one who always spend huge amount of time in our relation.

Is she having a statement here ? Maybe she did those things but for me it is not enough for showing me how serious she is. Because i am still the one who came over to her over and over, when we had an argue.

Well, from now on, i will not reply anymore, because she told me to get lost. Right?
But i do think she doesn't know what to do and she might be frustrated and that's why she send me this sms. Am i thinking right here?

So no more reply, like you guys advice me and lets see what happens.

More advice is welcome...

Damn, i really want her to beg for me now, because i think i did a lot to compromise in the past.

Today i got a few more sms that she is glad she didn't do this or that for me and she keeps accusing me for some things happened in the past. And so on...

This is a way of trying to get my attention? She tries to make me feel sorry for her in order for me to reply?

Think i shall keep on ignoring her right ?