Hi there,

I'm in relation for a while now.

I only see her in the weekends because we live about 100 KM distance.

All we do is hang around in her living room and having sex.
We barely do other things like a simple game or go out.

Till now she doesnt seem to bother only having sex and hang around on her room, but i am afraid that she will be getting bored someday.

So... i want to do other things rather than having sex and hanging around in her living room. sometimes we watch a movie and meanwhile we have a conversation and i like it a lot.

The point is... if i want to do other things and just have fun with her in another way, i am affraid i will kill sexual attraction on her and also i am affraid that she will think i want to do other stuff because sex ain't good enough anymore.

How to let her know i want to do other stuff and have fun with her in another way, without her thinking sex ain't good enough anymore and without me beeing affraid to kill sexual attraction ?

anybody ?

thnx

You're doing what magicians call "running when you're not being chased." It's when you explain something to somebody with the purpose of not raising suspicion but in turn, it does exactly that. Imagine I'm hiding something in my hand (like a folded playing card for example) and I needed to ditch it in my pocket. So I tell my audience, "let me just grab my wallet here out of my pocket" and then I ditch the card in my pocket while pulling my wallet out to place it on the table. Now everyone is watching my hand with the card when I could have just done it on an off beat without saying a word. I would have drawn attention to my hand when I didn't need to do so at all.

The point to this is that if you want to go out and do stuff with this girl, make the plans and then do so. Don't explain to her why you're going out, just do it. You're thinking into this too much. When you have sex with her, give her your A game and then separate the idea of your performance from any other actions you do as a couple. Just keep being the guy you were when she met you and her attraction to you will continue on. Be in control, decisive, and go out and do some fun stuff with her.

Thats just what i was thinkning about exactly but i needed a confirmation on this one.


thnx, liked the magician examle


so i will do what i'll wanna do with her ( but still have sex with her offcourse !! haha ).

There are two main ways that I see dates for a long term relationship.

1. Pre-sex date. Dinner, parties, that sort of thing. Usually nighttime, fun and possibly alcoholic.

2. Post-sex date. Toy stores, parks, relaxed sports. Playful, giggly, tired but in tune sorts of date. This is where you go after having sex in the day time.

It's been a while since my last LTR, maybe someone has others.

Dude....


you're talking about SEX.

I understand that what you wrote will increase a good relation... SEXUALLY.

But there i need to do other things with her than just sex.

Also need some advice about going on a nice date without spending money

anyone ?

Cheap/free dates has undoubtably been discussed in another thread. Search around a little bit and if you can't find anything, PM me.

That's stupid. Relationships come from balance.

You don't need some new big strategy, you need to balance your sexual lives with your introspective lives and your social lives.

You're misguided, my advice is sound, and you need to apply it before you say that I don't know my business.

Parks are free, parties with friends are free, sports are free, discussion (or poetry) is free.

Fiend, i'm not saying that you would not know you're bussiness.

I think there is a miscommunication.

I think that what you are trying to say is to do some general stuff ( like goin to park, going out with her friends, etc ) in order to have great sex AFTERWARDS.

U want me to combine general stuff and sex right ?

Is this what you are trying to say ?

Yes, except sex can come on either side of a date. YES combine general stuff and sex. Spend time with each other in a variety of ways, but ensure that it all comes back to sex.

PM me if you have more questions.

i think i got the message.

i'll take her with me doing general stuff and afterwards i'll take her to heaven

thnx !