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I number closed an hb7 the other the day and there are a few things that are making me believe that she might be "emotionally unstable". I know all girls are crazy to varying degrees :lol:, but this one concerns me. I've been trying to rationalize this myself, and not having any prior experience I'm in need of some suggestions on how to proceed before I invest anymore time into it.
Just a little bit about her - she's very intelligent, well educated, has high aspirations and standards, tends to have fun on a low key level but is adventurous and loves trying new things. She seems like a really nice girl, kinda comes off as high maintenance. Her investment value in text communication is significantly higher compared to most other girls I'm seeing - quick replies that are long, some coming off as clingy at times, and I know she's been checking on me from search queries run on different social networking sites.
We've gone on 2 dates already in less than a week (seemed almost way too easy to get the first date) and she asked if I am free to meet again in a few days. On the first date she told me she got married at a very young age, way younger than most by today's trend, and that she divorced her husband recently after 3 years of marriage. Her explanation for divorcing him seemed logical and genuine to me though.
Based on the length of time that I have known this girl (about a week), how easy it was to get a date with her, her recent divorce, the abnormally high investment text messages, and stalking me on the internet, do you guys think that she might be damaged goods? If so, how should I proceed, keeping in mind that I am one to believe that it is best to leave things better than how you found them.
Find out how her social circle is, if she has lots of friends and spends time with them you should be ok. If she doesn't really have friends that she hangs around on the regular. There is a good chance she may be the overly clingy type. When most people get married or make a serious commitment to one another, the first thing that goes is usually their social circle ( single friends)
She simply could of gotten used to just having her husband as her only companion and is still in that mode and may seem overbearing to most guys, especially at first.
From my experience these type of women tend to be overly clingy and fall hard and fast. If you are only looking for a casual thing from her, it is in your best interest to let her know asap and cut the strings soon.
If you want more then just a casual thing. Just ask her about it. Be honest. Tell her you want to slow down a little bit.
Thanks for the advice bro. I'm going to see her tomorrow and tell her I want to slow things down.