| this is always a tough one. its fine that youre cool with it. and, as the old saying goes, youll catch more flies with honey than with vinegar. so youll get laid more overall by just going with the flow and not letting flaking get to you.
however, at a certain point, you need to have boundaries. you also need to not put up with stuff that you dont like. so, if this type of thing really bothers you, than its not cool to just play it off like everything is fine. in this case any one particular girl, even the hottest, most amazing girl of your dreams, isnt worth compromising your values in the long run. that is: youll be better off without her and by sticking to your guns.
so how much does it bother you? personally, flaking really bothers me. its something i wont put up with. my policy isnt zero tolerance, but its pretty close. obviously you need to be more forgiving for legit excuses.
and also it depends on the girl. if its a girl youve been seeing for a couple of months and she hasnt done anything like this before, then of course you should cut her some slack. otoh, if youve just started talking to a girl and she blows off the first date and is noncommittal about planning a second one, then you should probably just cut off communication and move on.
ive cut girls i otherwise really liked out of my life for this, and although it sucks, theres so many other girls who will be respectful of your plans that you dont have to worry about it. and like i already said, youre much better off long term by sticking to what you believe in anyway.
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