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Ok so before there was foreplay, I qualified the shit out of her and blew her out of the potential gf frame (at least for me, i dont view her as a potential gf now). So what I said was "so i got these things going for me: graduating college, starting my own business, etc. and etc., What do you have that would make me choose u over all the other girls?" the response i got was "i dont have an answer for u" and she doesnt and i realize that now which is good.
True qualifying should work slightly differently. In saying that she "didn't have an answer," she was refusing to qualify herself. You should have kept pushing with the qualifying questions, until she did see fit to qualify herself to you, in which case you reward her.
Basic example:
You: "You're beautiful, but beauty is common. What are three things that make you different?"
Her: (Feeling the pressure and being forced to become more invested): "Um, I'm kind... Nice... Funny..."
You: (Your reward): Yeah, I can tell you're a kind person and I like that about you.
I don't think her refusal to qualify necessarily had an adverse effect on the interaction but I thought I'd point that out. If she refuses to qualify herself, it doesn't count as qualifying.
Here's another one I do a lot:
You: "What music do you listen to?"
Her: "blah blah blah"
You: "That's cool." (You're giving her approval, because she's invested more in the interaction.)
Hope this helps.