This has happened twice to me that a female invited herself to spend the night at my house, without having any prior tactile sexual contact. Meaning, in both cases we weren't in a relationship nor had we even kissed, but they had been flirtatious towards me and then made the invite.

The first female I wasn't particular attracted to. She was decent looking, but not enough for me to be especially motivated. We just cuddled a bit then tried to sleep. She never made a move on me.

The second female I was actually attracted to, but it just felt so awkward. I didn't know what was expected of me and didn't want to do anything that might've been out of line or made things weird. Did she expect me to get a boner as we spooned? Did she want me to just start groping her without even asking? I just played with her hair a bit then we went to sleep.

let me just get this straight.

2 different women. who are NOT close friends asked to sleep over at yours. any particular reason they gave????? needed a place to sleep because there houses spontaneously combusted?

the second one if not the first was spooning with u on the couch. and THEY didnt make a move?

where did u meet these women were they homeless. i only ask because they either had a damn good reason to need somewhere to crash. or they came round to have sex with you, and u turned out to actually not be a man but a little girl with pigtails.

im not usually harsh with anyone here or with the most stupid questions people ask if there new, young or inexperienced with social conditions but from what u said you are either not telling the whole story, dumb as fuck or just a little girl with no balls

They gave no reason of significant importance.

I already explained it to you. It felt awkward. I didn't know what was expected of me. It would have felt weird to spontaneously start doing something sexual when we never had before. Perhaps you can enlighten me on what was expected of me.

I'm also not sure why they couldn't have initiated towards me.

ok first, how old are you.

they did make the first move. they "INVITED THEMSELVES TO STAY".

its your job as a pua, rAFC, to overcome the feeling of being awkward. u were not awkward enough to spoon with them. or to say yes to them staying,

the only thing that irritates me about your post is that you expect them to walk you through it.

did u not kino, make a sexual vibe. plain out ask them to come to your bedroom. please elaborate on what happened or we cant help you, if that's what u actually want.

Yes, I'm serious. I'll give more details.

I'm 24. I was raised in a hyperreligious family. I wasn't allowed to have a girlfriend and was discouraged from being around girls at all. I was also homeschooled much of my life.

I had sex only 1 time prior to these 2 girls I'm talking about, which was at age 22. The girl I had sex with was very direct and easy to read. She walked up to me and said I was hot, then after only about 5 minutes of talking she said she wanted to fuck me. We went to her place and she immediately started making out with me and touching my penis. Then she told me to put it inside her.



As for the first girl that slept at my house, she went to the gymnastics I trained at. We only talked briefly, and one day she came up to me and said we should hang out. I consented so she invited me to the movies. Nothing sexual happened there. Another day she invited me to a night club, she was too young to get into the night club so she invited herself to my place after that, just saying she didn't care to be home. I put on a movie. After a while, I said I was tired, so I turned it off then cuddled with her.

As for the second girl, she found out about me through a mutual friend and she suggested we start training circus together. We did for about a couple weeks, then one night she drove me home and asked if she could stay at my place. I thought she had a boyfriend to sleep with, but she claimed she wasn't attracted to him and they weren't really boyfriend and girlfriend. It was really late, I hopped in bed right after eating, then she joined me and spooned with me.



"they did make the first move. they "INVITED THEMSELVES TO STAY"."

Good point, I guess I'm just wondering why they weren't as direct and as obvious as the first girl was. I still don't know what they wanted me to do.

I do, they wanted sex
After all you cuddled and spooned etc etc - if they were not interested they would not do that.
I feel pain reading this thread

They were not as direct as that other one because most girls would want a man to lead them.


NEXT TIME:
When a girl invites herself for a night at your place for "no good reason" 95% assume that they want sex. Then start cuddling, brushing her hair etc and if she lets you do that and/or answers with similar action change that 95% into 100% and proceed towards sex.