So my last girlfriend I had was a year ago, and i found her personality to be amazing, and she was really cute too but i wouldn't say beautiful. Since then ive been talking to girls as friend trying to find another girl worth being my girlfriend. Obviously i started looking for looks since personality doesnt show until after youve met them for a while, and there were always cute and hot girls but i wouldnt be attracted. There was one that was definitely a 10 by looks but we had nothing in common so i would get bored after a while. Lately i started talking to this girl in my college class that i had one class with in high school. I hated everything about her, and now we got a project together so i hung out with her almost the whole week and we have a lot in common and its going good. When i think about her i guess the thought of her and her personality is awesome, but then physical attraction isnt there for me even though everyone thinks shes really hot and cute.

Basically my question is, is this normal, every girl i get close to mentally, physical attraction goes away and then that mood gets me into not wanting to go for the girl at all. Do i just wait for the right girl that has both looks and personality? or just get used to the fact that this is normal or somthing?

I'm pretty picky wit girls too, but good point... i guess continue going through girls till ones the best

But here is the beauty of it all.....you don't have to be single while looking for that one girl. Use your skills and if you like a girl for whatever reason you deem appropriate, then you can be steady with her or not, it's your choice. And if you end up with a girlfriend and find someone better who reciprocates your intentions, then you can separate from #1 and go for #2 or #3 or #4! You never have to feel bad about seeing multiple girls, just as long as you don't lie or hide your intentions. Check my signature bro, it's my whole mindset with women and I have a girlfriend right now too. I'm not saying you should settle for something lesser, I'm saying you should settle for now until a better opportunity comes up. It's like working somewhere you don't like but still have bills to pay. You look for another job while working the one you don't like until you find something better. Of course with women you don't have to keep them if you don't like them, and single is not a bad thing but jobless is. Like TonyKing said, it's all trial & error.

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Hahaha seville my friend and I use the job analogy aswel! Just thought I'd throw that in there. But yes they are right, you also have to ask yourself how long did it take you to fall for your last girl? Was it overnight or did it happen in conjunction with the memories and traditions the two of you developed over time?

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