I've recently been wondering the answer to this...

Ok, so you meet a hot girl and she is single and ready to date! you have her number and your gaming her/already set up a first date. Your doing pretty well so far. Now you know for a fact that she is also texting/talking to another guy who came on the scene at the same time.

You know they are talking quite a bit but you get the impression that you are in pole position.

At this moment do you want to appear more aloof than the other guy or do you want to text as much or more than him in order to keep you more visible and break their rapport?

Nope, you want to do the opposite. That is, spend more time with her, get her used to the idea of you being a regular part of her life, and THEN pull a bit. Freezing out is lame, it only works in situations where the girl is already invested in you and you're simply trying to keep make yourself less accessible to help ensure she doesn't lose interest - or as 60yearsofchallenge would say, so YOU don't become disinterested with her.

Fuck texting, do u want to be the simp preoccupied with texting her whitty things to say or the guy who's pounding her and having her snuggle up against him all night long? You decide.

I would personaly game her as if shes not having anything with that guy. I mean of course she has to decide between you and him but it depends if you see each other as competitors or your regard him as a normal guy shes having a chat with. I bet she is talking also to more than one guy SPAM. but that are only friends. So dont text her in order to win her over him. That will fail. Of course it depends on the girl but texting without acting is worth not too much so dont worry about it.

You got the date? Great! Game her and try one KC. Do your stuff you learned around here and you will win her.

Dont worry about other guy. Dont make it your objective to win her over it'll just make u look needy

Get her out, have a blast together, be positive and empower her too this part is very important. Do this and the choice for her will be obvious.

Cheers for the responses guys!

I was wondering as I've made sure to be Slighty aloof from the start so as to not be a text buddy. This means that I've never texted during work and even when I'm home my replies can take a while! I was worried about losing her interest because while I'm not talking to her the other dude is building rapport (assuming he is good).

My head got fucked up as I lost my last HB by texting too much.

I'm pretty sure I'm in pole position as she's called me before bed a few times in the last few days while she is staying by herself in a hotel in England (on a training course). Plus my date is on the night she gets back so I'm in their earlier than the other guy! Which can only be a good thing! There's been lots of sexual innuendoes ect when we have talked so I'm making sure not to be viewed as a friend!

I'm just being myself with her and doing what I usually do. Plus I've a date set up with another girl the day after to keep my interest levels non needy. The other girl is arguably even hotter but the banter is slightly lower.

Right on dude!

You can even progress to sex on text, then sex on phone, and then sex in person. You can always calibrate to find the right groove for your seduction. Bottom line is: play hard to get. Make her think that she's doing the sexual seduction, not you.

Remember, you're the hot man. You can give her multiple orgasms like no other guy can. You know how to give her the emotional roller coaster that her mind, body and soul want. You can take her places if and when you want to, and you're a badass in a lot of things that sets you apart from the average. And, oh, you're busy with other things (women love this).

With that mindset, texting becomes easy.

Just awhile ago HB7.5 sent a text message. She was asking for a date. I replied 3 hours later, teasing her and then ended the text conversation first by saying, I've got something important to do. I left that vague and didn't answer her question.

So what's the important thing that I had to do? I gave my cat a shower.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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Off out with her tonight so let's see how this goes!

The number one thing you need is sexual tension mixed with a deep connection. Share a weakness or confide in her. Get in there and get her to share something too, then you got a connection!

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Just back, went well and the conversation flowed. Wasn't the best date ever but there was some good banter. K closed easily at the end without any effort really so there must be attraction at least.

Just sent the obligatory "hope you got home ok" text, so I'll see what happens!

Bet I go out tomorrow night and have a fantastic night with the other girl because I don't care as much with her lol