| Hey all, been reading the material on here for a month or so now, was never too bad with women but the stuff I'm reading posted by this wonderful community is definitely helping.
Anyway, here's the situation. I've been good friends with this girl (we share the same group of friends) for about 2 years now. When we met I was in a relationship with another girl, so I didn't really pay her any mind. She's a flirty type anyway, so any kino going on didn't register as significant in my head. So time passed, things with the other girl ended, and we became closer, though never to the point where she'd treat me as LJBF (telling me her problems, asking me to do things for her, etc).
Eventually I realized how much I had in common with this girl and how well our personalities gel; we've always been more flirty and touchy with each other compared to the others in our group, playing grabass, making out while drunk, all that good stuff. And so I began to develop feelings for her.
Not wanting to screw things up for the group, I decided to bottle up my feelings and ignore them while gaming other women. Months passed until I finally realized she liked someone else. Now she does date lots of guys that she doesn't care about, so when she actually likes one of them, I panicked. So (and yeah bad move I know), I told her how I felt, and that I would probably not be able to continue on as her friend if she decided to get serious with another dude. This came as a surprise to her, she had no idea. Turns out she really liked me when we first met, but because I didn't make a move, she moved on, and now only viewed me as a friend (shitttt). After that conversation, it's been very limited interaction since. The few times we have been out and about at clubs and parties, I've tried to make moves on her, which usually works for a moment before she catches herself and stops me.
Fast forward another few months, and as usual we go out in a group to drink. This was our first time drinking heavily together in ages, and pretty much as soon as the bar closed, we came back to my place, where she immediately pulled me into bed and we had sex.
The morning after wasn't awkward at all, in fact it was probably the most comfortable we've been with each other in a very long time. We chilled for a bit, fooled around a little, before she had to go. But I knew that she still has feelings for the other guy (he doesn't reciprocate those apparently), even if she did say she has some feelings for me. But because we're "friends", she doesn't think it can work.
A few days later (feel free to facepalm at what I did here folks) I text her to no response, then call her in the evening, she doesn't pick up. Sent her a message saying what, can't talk to me anymore? She responds immediately, and I call her (the whole reason was because we had made plans before any of this happened for later on in the week and I just wanted to confirm). She said yeah we're still on, then made some excuse to get off the phone right away. She hasn't contacted me since, it's been a few days.
Now it's not as bad a trainwreck as some of the stories I've read on here, but the situation seems pretty bad. Salvageable at all? I would definitely like this to become an LTR, and yes I know it's hard to tame a party girl, and shit maybe it's oneitis but this girl is something special to me. Any help would be much appreciated guys.
Thanks for reading this ridiculously long post, and look forward to reading your suggestions.
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