I am 21 and had been single for my entire life. I really want to have a realationship, and get a gf, someone I can enjoy my time with. I don not have any friends. And these situations sometimes gets me depressed and sick. I talked to a therapist, but all he mentioned, that it will just go away. I read John Alexander's book, " How to be an Alpha Male." He mentioned taht he was a virgin at 21, and I am in his same shoes. I don't know how John got lucky and got his fare share of girls. Does his method really work. I am in college, and its hard to meet girls here, since I don't have much social life. What do you guys suggest I should do. John mentioned that as an alpha male, you should be happy with or without women. But sometimes not having a gf depresses me. What can I do? Any ideas? Any suggestions?

Dude I was 29 and still a virgin so don't feel so bad

From your post it seems like you might have some shyness issues. You say you don't have friends or a social life. You're in college, join a club or frat and find some friends. The friends come before the girls, you need to learn to be social.

Yes this stuff can work. But don't lose yourself in it trying to become "alpha".

Next time you're walking to class, smile at all the pretty girls you see. When one smiles back...simply say hi. No commitment, no fear.

But definitely get on finding some friends asap.

What separates the guys who get lucky from those that dont?

The lucky guys are willing to take more risks sticking their neck out and not ruminating over past rejection. Instead, they reload and try again with the next girl that comes along.

You create your context. You can be the best looking guy on the planet and be lonely if you expect the world to come to you. Make things happen, go out there. You can easily meet 3 new girls this week if you were relentless in your approach and ignored the little voice in your head that tells you "you can't", "you aren't good enough, smart enough, good looking enough".

This can change, is up to you. But, is gonna be hell. Unless if you get lucky, your not gonna hook up with a girl until about 3 years from now, and this is gonna be hell! Once you hit rock bottom and you start to climb, this is when going out and socializing, not just with women, but with guys also, becomes an addiction. You will have the most fun ever in your life. But this will only happen if your serious.

Right now, your social skills are very weak. Your gonna have to built it up by being outgoing. Is not something that changes in a day, it takes years. Just like going to the gym. You can't go for a day or couple of months and expect to get results. You have to stay consistent for long time.

I would suggest going out alone to bars or club if you have to (I did for at least 7 to 8 months) and make small take with girls and guys. Yes is rough. On top of that, start up hobbies that you would like. And I know from reading your post, your a huge video game nerd, cut back from tv, video game, and internet all together and take up those hobbies. Make sure is something you can invite girls or guys to. For example, I start making friends from going out with guys because I surfed, so we already had something in common. These are the guys I go out with til this day to go pick up girls, and these guys were already good with women, so I learned from these guys. Saved me money on pick up products and bootcamps. More then picking up girls, we do bunch of other shit together, so when going out, we vibe really well.

keep this quote in mind by Arnold S. "What seperates a chump from a champ is willingness to go through the pain period." And in your case, be prepare for the pain period. Your gonna be broken down like big time, but once your build back up, your gonna be like Neo in the Matrix. Unstoppable.