I`ve been into this transforming thing for quite a while.. And until now (I`m working on myself a few months) I see some changes.. But I have a problem with being kind a obsessed with one girl, or more like one-itis. She fucks me off, I`m miserable for a few hours, then I get back on my feet and all happy, few days or week goes by and I try again.. And the same old story all over again. And this is really one huge thing that is holding me back. And I can`t get it off my chest. I try not to think about it so much, but I always find myself in some deep shit when something happens. Like when they go out with my friends and I`m not there, or I`m "worried" sometimes where and with who she is, then now she has a prom, we agreed that we will dance together. Then a few days later, she told me she will dance with one other guy. She doesn`t know him, he`s a weird guy, but still.. In some strange way I feel like, that now something will happen between then and that I will lose her or whatever. So I really need a smart advice how to distance myself from this feelings and to start acting normally, bcs I fucked up with her only bcs I was in this kind a mood all the time (worried and obsessed with her and all that).
Oh and a strange thing and I need an opinion on this. She said I few things to me, that if any other girl would say to me, I wouldn`t care really.. But with her, first I get angry at her for that and then later I find myself talking/texting to her about what happened. And we always argue about all things, but we never really talk to each other...

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It seems to boil down to two core problems: 1) you have jealousy issues, and 2) in turn, you are insecure. But that's fine, you can fix both of those quite easily. At your age, I was the exact same way. And just look at me now!

...what? Not impressed?

Anyway, let's talk about jealousy. It's fucking ugly. Jealousy is quite easily one of the worst emotions anyone can experience since it's so undefinable, so hard to pinpoint, and ultimately so difficult to conquer. You need to re-frame your mind and realize that, if a woman truly is attracted to you and you've done your part, she has a far less likely chance of doing something with another guy. But in order to do your part, you need to stop being jealous to show her how confident you are. You need to politely and indirectly let it be known that there are other options out there for you. This, in turn, will make you feel better about yourself and you will be less likely to feel jealous. And let's face it, if you're serious with a girl and she cheats on you or whatever, you're better off without her anyway.

Don't get me wrong, everyone gets jealous sometimes. But too much can destroy you. And with that said, if you aren't even dating a woman and get jealous, you need to realize you really have no right to feel that way. She's not cheating on you if she isn't committed to you. Similarly, you aren't committed to her, which is why it's important to have so many options available.

Thanks man, nice post...
But I`m really having problems with reframing my mind and all that..there was a time a month ago, when I felt really good and I was seeing some changes and all that, but then shit with her happened again and I feel down like a rock.. And like you said, if there is too much jealousy it can bring you down.. But I`m in this circle, when even if I game one other girl, there is smth in my head that this is just practice for her. I never actually stopped thinking about getting her. Oh, and we were kind a together half a year ago, but I was a REAL douchebag and did too much playing when we were about to get together
So yeah, here in my school, there aren`t a lot of girls to focus on (there˙s actually no time) and it`s even harder when the only thing I think about is how I will get her and I`m not really interested in relationship with any other.. So what the fuck should I do?

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Snarg hit it on the head bro. The only thing I would add is maybe someday making a girl jealous of some chick you are talking to and watch the ugly come. Out. I mean sure you are experiencing it first hand but when you see someone else being jealous, it really solidifies just how unattractive it is. Like Snarg, I too have been in that boat. Hell, I was even the jealous/psycho ex-boyfriend once. But when started getting better with my game, and thus had more than one option, I saw the other side of jealousy first hand and I never got jealous again. I'm not saying that will help you but it almost completely annihilated my jealousy issues permanently.

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"I'm not a player, I just know how to quickly and efficiently remove a woman from my life when I figure out that she isn't good for me. If everyone has a soulmate out there somewhere, then I'm on a mission to find mine"