I was out few ago nights with the group I hang with. In walks this chick who I know. She recently got out of a relationship, I've started to have some interest in her. I already know she's kind of wacko, to put it bluntly. However she's attractive, over thinks things, but good to talk to. We talk about the guy she was just with and how he's going back to the states and all. She says that at this point she doesn't want to do a long distance thing. If a guy asks her to go wherever it is he's going to, then she will probably think about it and might go.

Now as I'm listening to this. I'm wondering is this bull shit, or is it the truth. I go on to tell her a story about how I have this girl who is into me, but wants someone who will stay here forever with her (meaning living in Germany for life). However this girl won't let me in because she knows I'll be leaving. In my mind that is really where the chick I'm talking to is. As we know rarely do women ever tell us what they really want. We have to be the Steve Jobs and tell them that they really want this or that before they actually want it. I mean this is a girl who has a cell phone that is pretty old, but won't switch over to a new one because she figures, "It still works and when it finally breaks I'll get a new one."

Am I wrong in thinking this way about her? I don't think so because as I wanted to create space and not be stuck with her all night, another guy she knows walks in, who kind of looks like the guy she broke up with. They talk for a while and towards the end of the night they leave together. He's been here for 9 years and he's American.

I love the female mind my friends. Thanks for the thoughts!!

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"You can't be happy with anyone, unless you are happy with yourself"

here is the thing man, girls can make up all kinds of lies and tell these lies to themselves over and over and over until they believe them, themselves,

ignore all the bullshit specifics that a girl gives you, she will not sleep with you that night, she doesn't make out with guys on a first date, she never would sleep with a guy who was Xfeet tall, she is not looking for a guy right now, etc. etc.


don't pay attention to the logical spefics of a girl, and don't try to get her to like you, and verbally convince her to start escalating on you, it simply will almost never NEVER NEVER, happen, NEVER, memorize that right now NEVER don't pay too much attention to ioi's or iod's be conscious of them and calibrate to the situation based on them, but really it is the emotions being exchanged in the interaction and the connection happening that is more important then the actual words being said, if you want to see what is what, ESCALATE, AND PAY ATTENTION TO WHAT SHE DOES, NOT WHAT SHE SAYS, look for compliance, and how much you can get with her, keep escalating the level of compliance until you are sleeping with her

if she won't give any compliance, stimulate her emotionally and try to turn her on a bit, put her in a better mood, then test again, if you are having trouble getting any compliance, then she is most likely not interested in you, words don't really matter, how compliant she is does

GOOD LUCK