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PostPosted: Fri Dec 14, 2007 9:19 pm 
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I have a roomate who has always been very good with the ladies. It seems like when he meets women he always talks to them with a serious look on his face as if he were just chatting with a buddy or something, no flirting or anything but after the serious talk he will do some playful teasing type stuff and let her know hes interested by saying things like "when are we goin out for sushi?" and "you are the only women I would need, I'd marry you in a heartbeat". (he says it in a really confident manner with a grin on his face) It seems like he can get a women to fall for him almost at will.

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PostPosted: Fri Dec 14, 2007 9:28 pm 
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Yeah, you have a great ''how to'' example there.


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well usually when I am with my guy friends I tend to be comfortable and tease and talk shit (in a playful way) to my good guy friends.... i guess if you apply this to girls (but maybe not as harsh and leave the super perverted stuff out) you are on the right track.. just have fun , tease her , flirt with her, make her comfortable with you by having a good connection (only after you attracted her by teasing and flirting with her)... i guess talk to her like she is one of your guy friends just don't be harsh or perverted but be totally comfortable just like you would be with your friends


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I guess that what Im trying to say is after approaching her dont use any tricks or game on her. Just chat with her as if your not interested sexually and your not trying to impress her. I guess you could say that it is sorta like starting off in the comfort stage and using the comfort and the fact that your not hitting on her to make her attracted to you. Women probably think that a guy that doesnt hit on them must be special and that makes them like you. Does this sound like a good way to game?

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I guess that what Im trying to say is after approaching her dont use any tricks or game on her. Just chat with her as if your not interested sexually and your not trying to impress her. I guess you could say that it is sorta like starting off in the comfort stage and using the comfort and the fact that your not hitting on her to make her attracted to you. Women probably think that a guy that doesnt hit on them must be special and that makes them like you. Does this sound like a good way to game?
Aside from belching in front of her and telling dirty jokes, I think
you've got the general idea by talking to her like one of the guys.

What you are saying is you want to disqualify yourself to her in
the beginning so she won't see you as trying to pick her up.

Experiment. Try it out.


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I guess that what Im trying to say is after approaching her dont use any tricks or game on her. Just chat with her as if your not interested sexually and your not trying to impress her. I guess you could say that it is sorta like starting off in the comfort stage and using the comfort and the fact that your not hitting on her to make her attracted to you. Women probably think that a guy that doesnt hit on them must be special and that makes them like you. Does this sound like a good way to game?
What you are saying is you want to disqualify yourself to her in
the beginning so she won't see you as trying to pick her up.

Experiment. Try it out.
Thats pretty much what Im trying to say. She will be more attentive and care what your talking about that way. Act like you dont want her for anything more than a quick conversation or a friend at first.

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I was just watching some of MoM, and unfortunatly starting the way your buddy is is an excellent way to end up in LJBF or worse get with a girl and have her go through buyers remorse.

The attraction stage of the M3 model is important because it allows 2 people to display their intrests (and intentions) to each other in a way that doesnt come accross as try hard, slezy, or easy (no one wants things they didnt earn).

An AFC will start in comfot building and then work to seduction if they are lucky. A Player will start with attraction then skip comfort and goto seduction. A PUA will cover all three phases.

Your friend may be a natural at the beginning, my guess is this approach may end with him getting stuck in comfort building (and thus LJBF) the vast majority of the time.

Take more note of how he starts convos with people, aside from what he says note how he says it, his body language, and facial expressions. Maybe your just not catching his attraction phase. Ive found that to my surprise the A1-A3 stages are very short.

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I treat girls like "one of the guys", but then you throw in some flirty stuff (like how your friend did by telling the girl she was all the woman he would ever need) and then by playing a bit hard to get, so that they work for your attention and then when they get it, they feel happy and that makes them attracted.

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