Hey

im a first year medical student in a smallish cohort. only about 80 students for each year.
i dont know much about PUA but i have read a little abit from some books and am far from the AFC (which pretty much all of the cohort are over ALL years [yes depressing for them]). theres so many betas (will bend over backwards if a girl asks) that its not funny, and not many alphas who will try get all sexual with a girl fast.

so anyway what i want to know is how I can hook up with the hotties. theres an event coming up that all years (4 years worth of students) will be attending which is just a massive party for all to get drunk. but keep in mind that my reputation is important so I cant do anything tooo far fetched.


give me tips and tricks that will work. also theres quite a few with bfs, so should i stay clear of them or not?

thanks

those bolded lines are not going to work well together,
stop seeking approval, de-tach from an outcome,
to sleep with the hotties, you have to be willing to fail,
you have to be willing to not care about your rep,
go for exactly what you want, and be indifferent to the results,
you have to actually put in a solid effort to get them alone and sleep with them,
if you can't do this or have abolutely no confidence in your ability to do so,
go out and practise on girls that don't matter to you until that confidence exists
as for boyfriends, interested girls that find you attractive are interested girls that find you attractive, the only way to find out if a girl is sexually available and willing, is to try to sleep with her, it is that simple, there is no way around it, screen them to find out if they are interested, show intent, escalate, isolate, close

well my rep is always going to be important as I will always be seeing these people around for the next few years (small cohort means everyone becomes close).
i also am VERY confident person, i flirt all the time and get sexual with chicks but hardly try to hook up as im afraid of rejection.

so i guess what i want to know is:
with the upcoming event for all the medical students, what can i do to profit? in terms of sex, hook up or even just to get very flirty and sexual to set up for a date for another time

seriously, there is no way around it,
the most successful approach is the highest risk, and you are not confident enough to take that risk as it could hurt your image, you either play to win, or you play to not lose, often not losing results also in not winning if you catch my drift,
there is no amazing safe trick to do with without risking rejection, all or nothing works with a much higher success rate, do something bold, and try to hookup

ok so can u suggest wat i should do for this upcoming event?

there is no magical things to say or do, you are you, you have your own unique personality, use it, mingle with girls, flirt, screen them to find out if they are interested in you, if you get the vibe they are, get them alone, turn them on, make out, fuck

so say if we were both sitting down on a couch, i got my hand stroking her thighs (and she doesnt pull away) and we r just looking into each others eyes and just talking about random crap-is she just waiting for me to make a move? because last week we started uni and during the first week of partys i got into that scenrio like thrice but was too scared to try makeout...

also say if i say lets dance, and i get put her arms around my neck (and she doesnt drop them or try to get away), if she goes this far do u think she would reject if i try hook up?


i know i sound like a complete phaggot right now and super AFC, and i also know its not that black and white, but wat do u think? because i get into those two scenrios alot but dont convert to sex/kissing

ok, your sitting on a couch, your hand is on her thigh, she doesn't move, she doesn't flinch, she is completely fine with it, what that tells you is she is compliant to physical touch,

now consider, did you screen her at all?, did you say, hey you seem really down to earth and laid back, I love girls that are so open and easy going, how did you become so chill?

and she starts explaining herself to questions like that on top of allowing you to touch her, these are good signs that she is not a waste of time and is actually into you, the more turned on she gets and the higher her bt goes, the more easily compliant she will become, but every girl will have a compliance threashold, your job is to escalate and find out where that threashold is, maybe it is touching her back, maybe it is kissing her, maybe it is touching her boobs, maybe it's a finger bang, maybe it is full on sex, maybe it is her cutting herself for you, maybe it's her killing herself for you, compliance varies from person to person, and sex is somewhere in the middle of full compliance (a person willing to die for you just cause you told them to)

you can find a compliance ladder and escalate compliance in a linnear fashion little incrument by incument, but it is likely the threashold will be fairly stable unless you are playing around with her buying temp and raising it, a turned on girl is more likely to want to go further then a dried out bored girl, and turned on or not, a girl who logically does not find you attractive, will not be willing to give you very much compliance

so back to the answer to your question about the couch, you got your hand on her leg, and she is looking you in the eyes, just go for a kiss, she's most likely not going to try and kiss you, and she will certainly not tell you, and no ''perfect moment'' will present it's self ever, the only way to find out if she is compliant at that level is to not hesitate and escalate, and just to kill some of your worries if she is receptive to even holding your hand or letting you touch her and is friendly, there is a really really good chance you can make out with her easily and she will be down, but the longer you pospone it, the weirder it gets, it will just not feel normal for her if she knows you for months and never kisses you, then all of a sudden waalaa out of no where, kissing is a relatively low level of compliance, every thing passed kissing can get a little bit more tricky, but also pretty easy as long as she is into you and you keep leading and turning her on and see resistance for what it is and handle it

now lets say you dance, she is proving she is compliant just by agreeing to dance, stop worrying about what she wants, and worry about what you want, if she does not want the same, she will stop giving compliance, the worst that will happen is she will move your hand, or tell you to stop doing what you are doing, don't be afraid to escalate, girls are far more forgiving of advances then they are of pussies, once again the only way to find out if she is compliant or not is to test, there is no other way, you can't read her mind and you shouldn't try to, if you want to have sex with a girl, you have to be willing to risk rejection and not care about if you get laid or not, be willing to fail, the only way to have sex with a girl, is try to have sex with a girl, at some point the dick has to come out, you can't go swimming and not get wet

don't be so hard on yourself man, just suck it up and go for the kill, you will feel better after you do, what is going to happen to your amazing rep anyways, are girls going to be talking shit about you in school? OMG BECKY, LOOK IT'S SPAM!!, WE ALL THOUGHT HE WAS A NICE GUY AND COOL AND ALL THAT, BUT IT TURNED OUT HE WASN'T GAY!!, WHAT A SCUM DICKED ASSHOLE, HE TRIED TO KISS TIFFANY, HOW DARE HE!!, LETS GO SHIT ON HIS CAR!!

you're probably just making up problems in your head that simply don't exist, girls get horny and want to get laid, it is fairly simple, it is either a yes or a no, and not a big deal to figure out what the answer is

thanks for all that info. can u link me to any other thread that might help me out?

I'm in a similar situation: small PhD program. If I were you, I'd be cautious (don't risk your career just to hook up). Your reputation can follow you in ways you can't even imagine. My advice is just be confident, fun, friendly and flirty (but nothing ridiculously overt). If you act like this, girls will come to you. Escalation (kissing and beyond) should not be done in public. Leave or set up a day 2.

I think everything you do should be ridiculously overt, at least to your target. Make your sexuality completely known, be willing to admit that you're looking to get some tonight.

An effective strategy can be waiting to kiss until you're in private (I doubt everyone's hooking up at these things).

Also drop hints about your place: "I can't wait for strawberry pancakes when I get home, they're so good" (helps to have a story about this, so you can go back and forth between why they're awesome and how you're going to have them later). "You haven't seen Wayne's World? We have to watch it together. It's urgent, we'll watch it tonight."

Go for the lay. If you can't get it, if she obviously won't come home with you, but she's the hottest girl, the one you'd most like to date, then future pace, the same way you would to get her back to your place, but with other locations too. "We need to go to ___ restaurant. It's so good" "We need to watch __ movie" "We're going to go ____"

When you do this, try to paint a picture that equals fun. Imagine what will make that scenario fun, and put yourself in the fantasy.

Good luck man.

One more point: discretion is great. If you plan on announcing to your buddies every time will get laid, women will hear, and women will be far less likely to hook up with you. If you want sex, want it for your own benefit, not so that you can brag about it to friends.

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