Okay, so I went out on a date on Tuesday with a younger girl. We totally hit it off, and she told me how awesome I was. Well, she works two jobs and is a student. I feel like she is never initiating conversation via text. She takes like two hours to respond to some of my texts. I asked her to hangout tonight, and she said something about her family having a party tonight.

I honestly thought she'd become obsessed with me after the date went so well, but she seems distant. I don't know if it's because she is stressed (which I think she is), busy, or if she just doesn't like me.

How can I re-gain control?



UPDATE: I didn't text her at all on Friday, and she didn't text me at all. It's probably the first day from the past two weeks where we have gone without talking. Do I text her today? If so, what do I say? Do i call her today? Or, should I wait until she gets back in touch with me? I'm just so confused as to why she is reacting the way she is. Normally, when I go out wiht a girl I get a good sense of how into me they are. With her, I felt she was going to text me nonstop. I just want to know what I need to do from this point forward. Thanks


UPDATE 2: She hasn't texted me all weekend. Should I call her later tonight? Or should I wait until she gets in touch with me. Some people may not think this is a big deal, but I feel it is a huge deal. What do I do? We haven't spoken since Thursday night.

For all you know, she's trying to play head games by purposely delaying her texts. But similarly, there's no proof that it's not the exact opposite. With that said, do not pay any attention to text response speed as it gives virtually zero indication of her interest level toward you.

It sounds like your date went well, so what's holding you back? She has a legit excuse for tonight, so go out and have some fun with your friends and ask her out another day.

Don't take it the wrong way, she has 2 jobs and is a student. She is constantly busy. Most of the time, she is just very tired. She is not playing games with you.

She is very independent, if you become needy, you will loose her.

I updated my original post. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Why actualy bother texting or talking her so much? It's more than normal if you don't talk for one day or more. Hell, I had a date two weeks ago. When she couldn't come meet after two times of asking her I stopped texting her and we didn't had contact for a week. I texted her again yesterday. She gave me an answer back at midnight. Texted her back again today in the afternoon. It's getting dark now and she still hasn't responded yet. That's just how girls roll. It's a combination of being busy and pretending to be hard to get. I can't imagine that she is not going to text me back. And even if she didn't then that's ok. If you have more options, everything is ok.


I don't like texting myself. I actualy hate it. I suck at it. I remember my AFC years when I was looking on internet for text game and that I used those lines and fucked it up. Other times when I didn't use text game, I got friendzoned. If you're not a pro at it,the more you text, the more you qualify yourself, the more risk you have of fucking things up. That is why I rather cut the BS, and only text when needed: when arranging a date, or after a week to maintain connection and contact. In the end, I want the girls to be attracted to me not by text game, but by my personality when being one on one.


That's why I started being aloof in texting as well. It work's for me. At least then she can't look more bussy and straight forward as I am.

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What's my next step? Do I call her tonight? Or wait it out...

Call her tonight if you have something to say. Could be inviting her out, could be a story that reminded you of her, something. And try to switch over to mostly calls, they're much more powerful than texts.

I personally wouldn't contact her because you will be conveying to her that you don't have anything going on in your life.

Don't be the guy that worries why she doesn't text as much. You should be glad she doesn't text a lot because it's so damn easy for the relationship to get boring when you are constantly texting back and forth.

Give her some breathing space, let her come to you. Ultimately, to get a girl to chase you is to keep yourself really fucking busy and have things that fill up your time. Let her be the one to text you and I assure you she will because she'll wonder why you aren't messaging her like how all the other guys do.