So this girl I have been involved with (long distance) and that I was really into decided to start seeing someone else (though I don't think they are committed). I have not seen her in a few months though we text back and forth and she told me she wanted me in her life (more than friends though she did not want a committed relationship claiming she wasn't ready for something like that at this point in her life). Either way I've been feeling like this girl who use to be extremely into me gradually drifted away (distance and not seeing each other nearly enough) was just stringing me along. I got the impression she wanted me to be in her life but maybe more as a safety net or something of that sort. Either way I told her that wasn't happening and said maybe sometime down the road we'll meet again. Either way I wished her good luck but made it clear I wasn't pleased with the way she handled things. Now I actually don't want to lose this girl (obviously), but I can accept that and I feel more like I have a partial oneitis (I've been through way worse so losing her is really no big). Some quick background, she told me she never had feelings for anyone like she did for me, we clicked like crazy when we first me, I've only ever physically been in her presence twice (long distance), she is super flaky and seems to flake out on those that aren't immediately around her, she is very attracted to me physically (HB9 who told me when she first saw me her thoughts were "damn who is that" and almost didn't have the balls to talk to me). Any advice guys/girls? Would anyone like me to clarify something or be more specific on a certain point?

Locyus if this girl was into you so much why didn't you take any moves. If anything you should have slept with her few times. If that was logistically impossible because of your distance why in the world would you think about her and be tied to her. Well, it makes no difference now. This is not partial oneitis it's full oneitis! What you have to do now is go out and game other girls. You know I was very much the same way as you are now long time ago. I happen to be pretty attractive and when I used to go on the subway or just walk outside all girls used to look at me and when I looked at them they used to look away. But I always made excuses to myself and said "oh they looked at my jeans" or "they just looked at me" but never wanted to believe that they actually found me attractive. There was a girl in my class(was an absolute hb 10 prob the one of the 5 hottest girls on campus) that always used to stare at me when I didn't see. But i noticed and so gather all the guts I had at that time and approached her. We finally hung out and I scored a home run. Then when I asked her why she was staring at me the whole time she replied that she found me attractive but was afraid to approach me because I may not find her hot enough. This happens all the time to guys whether they are good looking or average looking they always think in their head the opposite of what the girl thinks. So just get a friend if you could that also wants to pickup girls and approach every girl you see and have fun. Good luck.

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Hey man thanks for the reply. Approaching her wasn't the problem. I actually did everything with her but sex. According to her she felt like there was something special between us and wanted to wait a bit longer before sleeping together. Strangely I felt similar so I decided not to press and just move a little slower than usual. Long story short last time I saw her we had a great time and she kept telling me she really liked me and missed me. But everything especially distance seemed to have taken its toll. I've slept with 4 girls since her yet I still can't seem to fully shake her. Kinda got the "one that got away" mentality. Its annoying to because her best friends is actually a friend of mine so I'll still get reminded about her on occasion. I agree I got oneitis, just how should I shake it? I've been approaching and sleeping with women. Maybe it was her looks that got to me....