Anyone care to explain where I went wrong last night so I can hopefully improve. Sorry for the longish post this may turn in to.

Basically a girl opened me on the dance floor last night asking me what song was playing. I transitioned the convo and kino'd a lot and we were both really close. I couldn't hear her over the loud music so led her to the smoking area outside where we talked for a while. (Maybe I should have just kiss closed her there and then before leading her outside?) Then she said she was really mad and wanted to go and have a word with the girl DJ downstairs (who is my friend) becuase apparently the DJ told the girl to get out of the DJ booth quite bitchely (doing me a favour though becuase the girl I met said she fancied the guy also DJing there and my friend knew I was trying to get on the girl).

I weren't going to let the fact she fancied him stop me trying my luck so after she dragged me back inside to go find the girl DJ to have a word I managed to stop her from doing so and we danced for a bit grinding etc. Then she wanted the toilet so we went upstairs to the quiter ones. She was taking ages and then the club lights came on to signify closing time and the bouncer told me to go downstairs. She hadn't come out of the toilet yet so anyway I had to leave and went downstairs to find my friends.

Low and behold 10 mintues later I see the girl I was just with kissing some proper generic badly dressed ulgy dude. He went off for a bit and she was alone then she spotted me and had the cheek to come over to which I just turned my back to her blanking her.
She left the same time as us and I saw her get in a taxi with him which should have been me.

Did I not escalate quick enough? I don't really know. I was being pretty sexual but should I have just gone for the kiss earlier on?

It frustrates me when I see guys like him last night go home with girls when not to be big headed but I dress exceptionally well usually apart of the best dressed crowd in the night clubs. I'm also good looking and always having fun.

I don't dwell on it as in my eyes it's her loss but just wondering if anyone could shed some light on where I went wrong. Might have waffled a bit so hope you can all understand.

Many thanks

Did you kiss her in isolation? Seems to me she was looking to hook up, and didn't care who with. What point did your escalation reach?

The bathroom thing was just an escape from you. If she was interested in that point she would have come right back out to meet you.

Devi at the end of the night of picking up girls at a night club or anywhere else I ask my self "did I have fun doing it?" and if the answer is no then I didn't have a successful night and if I did have fun it indeed was a successful night. Yes, it might seem to you that the fact you did not get the girl that you failed but failure leads to success. But lets examine the logistics now. When the girl started dancing with you it was a cleat indicator that she's into you. From that point on you didn't need to try or do anything to attract her because the attraction was there already. All you needed to do is escalate more and just go up the escalation ladder. The reason she probably went to the other guy is either because 1) She wanted to get very sexual and you didn't give that to her so she went to the other guy or 2) She just couldn't find you after she left the restroom and thought you left and therefore just went to another guy. Either way you shouldn't be so serious about this and just make it fun. If you make it fun whether you fail or succeed you will feel good and will gain lots of experience and become more confident.

- Amazing Art -

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Thanks for the replies guys.

Yeah I think you might be right there PurpleSmash about just wanting to hook up with anyone. Shame I didn't get to cash in on that oppurtunity ha.

And cheers AmazingArt. I think I should have escalated more and faster than I did. When I go out I basically only go to clubs to have a good time. That is my main intention. Chatting to girls there is just part of the fun. I definitely make it my sole intention to always be having fun.

I always find with night game whenever I'm focusing all my attention on picking up a girl at a club I never seem to have any luck. It's always when I'm just having fun.