Here’s a bit of background – I went to school with both this girl and her sister. Her sister was in my grade and she was a year younger. We didn’t really know each at school and not for a few years after that either. About 3 years after school I moved in with her sister and a couple others.

I met her at a club/pub one night and got to talking to her there. I reckon I would have had the chance at least for a hook up that night possibly more as she spent a good couple hours sitting talking with me and resting her head on my chest. Because of living with her sister I couldn’t bring myself to initiate anything this night.

For about a month or two after this whenever we saw each other out we would generally end up hanging out for a while but never anything more than chatting (I blame myself as I was still unsure about it being awkward cause I live with her sister). We both have a similar circle of friends (well our friends know each other at least). One night one of my mates had my phone and got her number of someone and text her. It was only a short how you going and didn’t lead to anything but I suppose I got here number out of it. Since then we have text each other very minimally. By this stage her sister has picked up on what’s going on and I have spoken to her briefly and she says she doesn’t have a problem with us seeing each other (the sisters are quite close and tell each other most things anyway).

About a month ago whilst at a club she was also out. We spoke a little bit but not a great deal throughout the night. As she was leaving she came over and said bye. I was ready to go by this point asked to share a taxi home (she lives about a block away). A few other friends also shared the cab home however it was just us two in the back. She grabbed my hand and pulled it across onto her upper thigh and looked across with a cheeky grin. When we got back to my place I jumped out and without asking she followed. Another 2 of my mates jumped out and 2 of her mates stayed in the taxi and kept going (passing her house on the way). We went inside and sat on the couch and turned the TV on where we were alone in the lounge room. Occasionally someone would walk past, including her sister and just keep going. With out any real initiating from me, apart from holding her, she kneels over my lap and we start making out. Again few more people walk through the lounge room and each time we stop (although I think we got caught every time). Her sister also walked through and stopped and gave us the I’m watching you look. After this we just lay on the couch chatting for a bit before falling asleep on the couch.

Obviously the chance was definitely there that night form me to at the very least invite her back to my room to sleep if nothing else but for some reason I just couldn’t do it. Looking back now I know I definitely should’ve taken her back to my room. I sent a follow up text the following day just to see how she was feeling although didn’t get a response. I did however see her later that night (she was around to see her sister) and we just did the usual hi, how are you type of thing and that was it.

All this was over a month ago and although there has been the odd text and hi, how are you in between we haven’t really spoke since then. I feel as though because she was making moves and although I was going with them I wasn’t trying to advance it any further she may feel as though I’m not keen. I would really appreciate some advice as to how to move forward from here and get some sort of connection again as she is the type of girl I would like to date. I have been waiting to see her at a club again to reconnect there however this just doesn’t seem to happen so I want to try another way.

From briefly reading some other threads on the forum I know people may tell me to go out and hook up with a few other girls to move on but for where I’m at in life at the moment I really feel dating a girl rather than random hook ups would be better for me. Also I beleive once our lease is up in about 4 months we will all be going our seperate ways if this makes any difference.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.