Basically i think to myself, how is going up to girls and talking going to make me better at attracting them? If i do it one time, the second time isn't going to be any different. That is how i look at this but i knows it wrong, anyone want to help me sort this out?

Well here's my take on it:

No, going up to girls and talking to them in itself isn't going to make you more attractive to them.

However, you can't meet any women unless you go up and talk to them first, and some guys have trouble doing this. So, the more you do it, the easier it will become, and the more confidence you will get.

The confidence is a thing that women find attractive, and with that confidence comes an ease of talking to them that will help you get them interested in you.

Now obviously going up and talking to them won't get them from there into your bed, you have to progress from just talking, but that inital approach and opening is when you get your foot in the door.

Basically, talking to them is just the first step.... you have to start somewhere!

I see exactly where your coming from, thank you. You have opened my eyes.