Hello all, first of all I am proud to say that I got my first kiss last night. There are some of you that may be familiar with my other threads asking for help on a "pretend" marriage on facebook.

Basically it's a girl I've been friends with for a couple months now and I've been slowly escalating since she's been giving me mixed signals. We were drinking last night and when we were fooling around I mustered the courage to kiss her. It felt awesome cause she returned the kiss pretty passionately. We were kissing a lot and also grinding on each other a lot.

I tried to f-close her but every time I tried to take off her clothes she would push my hands away. I ended fingerfucking her a couple times until we both kind of knocked out. I'm still kinda pissed she gave me blue balls.

So this morning when we woke up, she said it was a "hit it and quit it", she wouldn't even give me a goodbye kiss. Now inevitably she's going to have to call or text me since we're in the same social circle but what should I do?

I realize I probably screwed it up by now f-closing her but she was being a real b*tch. I really want to make her my girlfriend and it looks like it's not going to happen. Should I just tell myself it's over?

First off, congratulations on your success. That's a huge step in the right direction, and if nothing else comes out of this, you should still be incredibly proud.

I'm pretty confused as to what happened here. You're saying you kissed and fooled around a bit, then she woke up the next morning pissed off at you? What does she mean by "hit it and quit it"? Is she referring to you only wanting her for sex (meaning you probably pressed the matter too much and/or the wrong way), or did she imply that she only wanted a one-night fling with you and nothing more?

I would say to stay clear of her for awhile and see what she does. It's not like she can really have buyer's remorse since you didn't even have sex, so I think waiting it out might be for the best.

Thank you, this is what happened. She was giving me mixed signals. One day she'll give me a lot of IOIs and then the next she'll give like one word texts.

I was kind of fed up with it and also blame myself for being a pussy for not doing anything about it. So last night, I invited her out to hang out, bought her a drink and then went back to my place to watch a movie. A mutual friend insisted on joining us and then left after the movie was over. While we were waiting for the mutual friend to show up, she said the friend was being a huge cockblock.

That pretty much gave me the green light to start messing around with her after we were alone. We were rolling on the floor for a while until I went in for the kiss. She returned it, we went to my bed and then she wouldn't let me take off her clothes so I began rubbing her and eventually fingerfucked her a couple of times and then tried to get her to take off her clothes again. It didn't happen so I got pissed and we both went to sleep.

We woke up, she told me she only wanted to hit it and quit it. Which, I know doesn't make any sense because I never even hit it, but I guess she counts fingerfucking. I walked her back to her place, she gave me a hug...I asked for a goodbye kiss but she wouldn't give it to me.

Upon further examination, she left a bruise and a bunch of talon marks on my arm and back. Damn, she must have at least been digging me at one point.

Unfortunately, mixed signals generally mean there's another guy in the mix somewhere. She's running hot and cold because she might have interest in you, but also in another guy at the same time. Don't let this shake your frame. You got her into bed with you, and even though you didn't have sex, that still counts for something. Act normal and keep doing what you're doing.

Alternatively, mixed signals could also stem from a few other, more rare issues. It could be fear of commitment, or she might not be entirely sure about you yet. It's impossible to say for sure.

I'm 90% sure it's fear of commitment. She has mentioned this once or twice. Is there any remedy? I've been changing her over the months, she use to not like certain things that I like and now she does them with me.

I'd say accept that this was indeed a "hit it and quit it" situation. You got a first kiss, what more do you need from this girl?
If you need sex from her, you will inevitably be needy. Being willing to let her go will only make you more attractive.

Advice on the specific situation, great job making a move. You should not have been willing to finger fuck her though. That gets her off, without her needing to escalate any further. Should have tried to take her shirt off. If she refused, take yours off and continue making out and feeling her chest. Try to take her shirt off again. If she consents, get her bra off a minute later. Even if she doesn't, take her hand and put it on your dick over your pants. Have her rub. Then pull it out. Have her rub. Tell her to suck your dick. Get and enjoy head. Get her pants off, finger a little. Have her rub/suck your dick. Fuck.

^Hope that helps for the next girl.