One of my recent situations was that someone I knew for a while, I liked, so I went for it, but botched the seduction up, I refused to take chances when they were presented because of my fear of kino.

As she was leaving, I just tossed out that I liked her, I mean, might as well throw the hail mary, the game was over. Obviously, I got put in the friends zone.

Now I don't exist to her. Attempts to reach her are futile. I understand that I messed up and must accept the consequences. I've already done this song and dance dozens of times. But why do women all of a sudden also toss out the friendship as well? Why is the utter concept of you disgusting just because you took a chance and failed?

They don't always. I'm very good friends with a couple of girls I messed up with earlier on in life - I'm even house sharing with one of them who I messed up with only a year or so ago!

Maybe they're just giving you both some space, and she'll be willing to start the friendship up later.

If not though, well, that might be for the best. Obviously she didn't really think much of you as a friend anyway, so why spend your time on her? Not only that, but if you liked her quite a lot, it's probably best to cut ties for a while anyway. Don't want it slipping into a oneitis type situation.

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same old song and dance

do better next time, maybe if you are ending with ''I LIKE YOU'' you should start with this and be a flirt instead of hiding your intent like it will work out better for you or something, just outright hit on girls, if they say you can just be friends, be their friend, don't stop hitting on them, just don't expect anything from them, compliance is more important then what is being said, as soon as it becomes a big deal, it is all of a sudden a big deal and she can't hang out with you because of that elephant in the room (you like her) where as if it is normal for you to just ''like'' every girl you talk to, and you hit on all girls you find cute, you are just being you and it is normal and she will just expect you trying to sleep with her and WAA-LAA it isn't weird, get more comfortable with escalation and flirting

They do it when you become more trouble than you are worth. By saying that you like her, you bring her drama that she doesnt wanna have. For you the drama is worth it because she is important to you, for her, you arent important enough. All depending on how she judges that you will handle the drama that is.

If I have a fuckbuddy, I judge if they are gonna be able to handle it or not. If yes, I go for it, if no I dont. Same thing with girls and drama.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn